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writes: Hey aunts, so I guy who I used to be good friends with recently got in contact with me. He is my ex boyfriends best friend. We have been chatting on and off for the past few days and met up a few times. We got to chatting about relationships and we both said we were single. Apparently this surprised him and from that moment on he has starting acting a lot more flirtier around me. He's a really nice guy. He even said to me last night I can't believe my ex boyfriend cheated on me and if he had of gotten the chance he wouldn't have messed it up. I can honestly say that I can feel myself starting to like him but I don't want to mess up his friendship with my ex boyfriend. I'm not that type of gal. He seems like a really good match for me. Should I just disregard my ex boyfriends feelings or should I let the idea of me and him drop?
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (23 April 2014):
 Your ex cheated on you and you're worried about hurting his feelings? Girlfriend you are too nice. If you really like this guy and he asks you out, go for it! Don't make yourself a martyr for your ex, who obviously did not treat you right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2014): I advise getting to know him more, don't rush into anything, especially not sex... Be sure that you want to be with HIM, rather than it being a subconscious act of revenge on your ex... You're not that kind of gal but we're human and it's possible you want to give him a taste of the hurt he caused you, without really realising it.
Just cos it might get quite messy, and unless you really like him is it worth it? Meet up with him more, see him as much as you want and be true to yourself. Follow your gut and if you really want to be with him, go for it...
Good luck :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2014): Tough one. I was with someone for 6 years who treated me like crap for at least 50% of the time and I was ALWAYS attracted to one of his best friends and I could tell the feeling was mutual, although said friend never did anything about it. Now we're no longer together and recently split, this guy keeps coming into my mind. But.... I have done nothing about it.. and I don't plan to any time soon.. because despite all the crap treatment from my ex, I think it would devastate him as they are really close friends. Some time in the future when ex has someone else... maybe... if something happened. That would make it ok somehow. It's unlikely to happen though as I know how much they respect each other. Still, all's fair in love and war right? How I hate that saying, especially the war part, but I'd say think very carefully about possible outcomes and how this could affect everyone.. and yourself..
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