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writes:I’m 13. I’m a really competitive basketball player, and I have been going to this training place for, oh, 2, years or so, to help with my conditioning. My problem is there’s this trainer who I have a huge crush on. Let’s call him “John”. He’s 22. John’s great, funny and sweet and cute. And totally ripped. Anyways, I occasionally flirt with him, nothing major. We always end up turning into a joke, really. Let me make this clear: he NEVER expresses any romantic interest in me, and I’m glad. I have no interest in being raped by a pedophile. Seriously, if he ever did, I wouldn’t get caught up; I’d report him. That said, this crush is just so stubborn. I know that, from the little things he says and does, he appreciates me like a little sister. It’s so cute, and it just makes me love him even more. If I were his age, or he were mine, I wouldn’t hesitate to ask him out. But of course, the age thing is a big factor. 9 years isn’t that big a deal with adults, but obviously I’m underage. I know all this, and yet the stubborn, smitten part of me remains convinced that as soon as I turn 18, we’ll fall in love and live happily ever after together. I just keep clinging to that hope. What should I do?
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reader, nlieu279 +, writes (23 March 2010):
 Right now you think and feel like he is the one for you but wait for some more years when you meet some more people, you will find the best half for yourself. You are too young to realize your soul mate. In my opion, don't cling to it. Let it go. I'm sure your other half is somewhere out there and you will find that person. If you two are destinated for each other, he will be yours no matter what. So for now, just let it go.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (21 March 2010):
Trust me, by the time you're 18 you won't even care about him anymore. It's okay to have a crush on an older boy, girls always do. But definitely don't cling onto any hope that you two will ever be an item...a lot changes in just a matter of days. Imagine 5-years from now, you'll probably be dating other boys and thinking about where you'll go to college.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 When you are young , you always like to dream and have fantasies. It is not wrong to dream and fantasize.
Dreams can be a reality sometimes. If you dream big , it may come to past.
In life, we should always have hope . We hope our dreams will turn to reality but sometimes, some dreams are just dreams only.
So, enjoy those dreams and continue to have new dreams.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): This is the author. Wow, that is a terrible title. Should've submitted my own, but I'm too lazy. Let me make it clear that I'm not asking if I should cling to the hope that we'll fall in love. Just want to know what to do about the crush.
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