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writes: The other day one of my friends found out that I like him and im not sure what to do. Were both seniors in high school (Me 17 and him 18) but ive never been in a relationship so im completely clueless. He said that he doesnt feel the same way because he doesn't know me well enough, but hes willing to hang out any get to know me better. But now I don't know what to do from here, neither of us can drive and we both live kinda far away. What should I do? Should I ask him to hang out? Also wet have a dance coming up soon at our school, should I ask him to go? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 March 2014):
 I think instead that he is being polite and letting you down easy. The " I don't feel the same way " is a bit hard to swallow, he figured, so he tuned it down with " because I don't know you enough ". I suspect he knows the hang out part would not happen because of technicalities.
If I am wrong, HE should prove me wrong. He said he wants to hang out and know you better ? Fine, then if he is interested , let HIM come up with some hang out idea or invitation. It's not that the girl should not take the initiative, it's that you DID take the initiative and he knows where you stand, now it's his turn to show where he stands and put his money where his mouth is.
That's not a complicated reasoning even for such a young man, so if the " let's hang out " remains vague and with no follow up, I'd bet it's because he wants it this way.
Of course, if you wish, you can still invite him to the dance, what's the worst than can happen, that he says no. You'll be disapponted but not devastated, hopefully, and at least you'll have a clearer picture of the situation.
But if I were you I would not do it, you did your part, if he means business ( I doubt it ) he will do his.
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reader, devont  +, writes (5 March 2014):
 I wouldn't ask him to the dance. He's said he doesn't like you back and I think he was probably just trying to soften the blow by saying his doesn't know you well enough... I mean, you know HIM well enough to know you like him, so it should work both ways, right?
If he asks you, then great! If not, go with your friends and have a good night with them.
All the best
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reader, Questing for Love  +, writes (5 March 2014):
 I think him saying he's willing to get to know you is a good sign. I think for now maybe sit with him at lunch and talk a bit seeing as how you can't drive to each other's houses. And I think the dance would be a good idea. But for now start with hi's in the hallway and lunch talks. See what happens :)
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