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writes:Hey guys, Btw I love this site. It's helped me make a lot of decisions about my relationship, but I still have some problems.Me and my girlfriend have had a couple of problems. When we last broke up she spilled the beans about things she's done that were somewhat unfaithful. She told me that when she asked us to go on 'a break', she kissed her ex and decided she wanted me so I forgave her. But the thing that got me is she started speaking to another boy which she is attracted to.Me and her are back together now but she still talks to him and I don't like it because he keeps asking her to come out. Which she apparently has denies. When she was telling me about her dishonesty she told me she was thinking about meeting him. This has left me unsure as to what she wants.She tells me she loves me and she knows I do. I just find it hard to trust her sometimes because we were fine when she began speaking to this other guy, so what changes anything now? What should I do?I would really appreciate your advice, thanks guys
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (17 March 2011):
"Should I do the same and keep talking to girls to annoy her back?"
I don't think it's a good idea if you are going to talk to girl only to annoy her. But if you have some girl (friends) to talk to, don't stop yourself from doing that.
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reader, Kaiz +, writes (17 March 2011):
Kaiz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all much for your advice. Firstly Smoochy and Capri, I see where your coming from. I think that it will eat me and maybe she is too immature. Maybe if my trust in her is rebuilt, hopefully me and her can progess with this relationship. I just feel like she's the one. I'm gonna raise my barrier a bit for a short while and see how it goes.
And Mrs anonymous, I have told her I felt uncomfortable with them talking. She understands how I feels and says that they talk because he needs someone to relate to about a old partner. I know he's gonna try her eventually.
I might aswell carry on because if she gives me a reason to not trust her, better now than 10 years in the future.
Lifea about living so I'm gonna go for it.
Should I do the same and keep talking to girls to annoy her back, cruel as it seems :D
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reader, Capri2 +, writes (15 March 2011):
Yes, I agree with SweetSmoochy you should try to move on. This girl looks too immature compared with the kind of relationship you seem to expect. She doesn't make up her mind and keeps you waiting there. I don't think so, very disrespectful.
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reader, SweetSmoochy  +, writes (15 March 2011):
 Whether she is going to cheat again or not, your relationship has lost its trust. A relationship built without trust can't create healthy love, and WILL create jealousy and paranoia.
You should really try to move on from this girl. The fact that you are always worried about her cheating or lying or meeting up with guys, whether she is doing these things or not, is going to eat at you. Should you ever try to start a new relationship with another woman, the fear might carry over if this is left to go on too long.
You obviously care very much for this girl, so I completely understand that this will be a difficult thing for you to do. If you decide to move on, make sure you give yourself some single time to heal and recuperate before jumping back out there.
Best of luck and lots of strength
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2011): You need to tell her straight up your uncomfortable with this and that it's not okay, because it's not. If she wants you than you should matter more than some guy she meant. You said she was attracted to him and he's obviously interested in her since he keeps asking her out so this only spells drama for your relationship.
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