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writes: My wife says I love her , make love to her, too softly she wants me to be more aggressive. I need some examples and she says to me , figure it out . "I want to be taken not made love to". Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Sandman  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 When you say she wants to be taken I get the impression she wants you to "take" it, not beat her around.
For example, next time she doing the dishes, or even cooking (move her away from open flames), or ironing clothes or whatever: just walk up to her and turn her around real fast and plant a deep passionate kiss on her. Then turn her back around real fast and practically rip her pants off her (or hike her dress up and "aggressively" take off her panties) and make love to her right there! Don't plan to move her to the bed and be soft and gentle with her. While most of the time that's fine - it seems she wants a little more spontaneity and excitement.
Next time she's getting out of the shower and is being over to lotion legs - take her. Next time she's IN the shower - join her, and take her. Next time she comes home from work (and you're already there) - take her right there in the doorway (but SHUT THE DOOR!). Take her. Take it. I think that's what she's asking for. Don't call her names or anything like that. You can still be a gentleman and still be aggressive.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Hi hunny
Sorry for that, I just needed to sort that out...Sweetheart some women like there hair pulled and to be thrown on the bed and taken like in cavemen times, Roll play is great TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Em mattman
Were you not the person who wrote a question...A story called love....Am I lost for good? Which I answered, Your question states how upset you are as your g/f is depressed and kirsten had said she wants to marry you.......This I belive is your last followup to your question..........
I wanted to thank everybody for all of your excellent advice, I really do believe I made progress today. Im going to be passionate as I usually am but NOT try to have sex when we kiss or make out. Im going to see if that will help to boost her passion and make her want to be more physical with me. Ill keep you updated on results in the future, thank you all again.
Matt.
And after reading your answer here it doesnt seem to add up this being your speciality, As you state what a good lover you are with your wife, So Im more than confused as rhythmandblues2 and q1605 and myself took quite along time answering you question out of kindness and caring for your terrible situation, Which from this answer does not seem the case at all, you were not married on the 4th of april and on the 4th of april you were.....A very confused MANDY
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (4 April 2008):
 smack her ass around. call her a ditch bitch and a slut
do her from behind and grab her hair and pull her head back.
scratch your nails down her back.
shit i left scars on the last chick i did that too. granted she loved it.
just watch some rough porn you'll get the idea.
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reader, mattman +, writes (4 April 2008):
 This just happens to be my specialty:)
I am a VERY aggressive man and most women LOVE IT. Remember the focus should be wild, and edgy and even a little "very little" painfull. When I go down on my wife I like to kind of grunt a little and do a lot of touching on her body while im down.When she starts the running up the wall thing I wrap my arms around her legs so she cant run and do the duty.
When we start to have sex ill start deep and slow and grab "mildly not hard" her chin and look her deep in the eyes and ask if she wants it harder. If she says yes give it hard for a second but slow down and say "I SAID do you want it HARDER" She should be ready to beg and when you start in on her DONT STOP. A little mild hair pulling makes mine get off. She also loves it when I grab her butt in both hands and spread em if you know what I mean while were having sex.
Plenty of dirty talk makes a difference to us too. A little soft bitting on the neck helps out alot. Well now that I look like some kind of massacist ill say good bye
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x +, writes (4 April 2008):
 Chains. Handcuffs. Walls. All come in very useful. You could always tie her to the bed or something. That could work for you. Handcuff her to it. Make it seem like you're the only one in control. That should work.
Wishing you the best.
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Sounds like role playing or some type of fanasty she has.
As a man, I would need more input from my mate before I tried this.
I can guess and just be a little more pushy. While naked, you could push her up against the wall so her buttocks hits first, pick her up and against the wall, have sex with her. The car, the back yard (house not apartment living). If she walks one way, just grab her arm and divert her elswhere.
Communication! Ask!
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