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writes:My ex of 25 months and I broke up but a week after we broke up she got into a relationship. She say with a dude she said was her friend. When I ask is she moving on, she won't answer my ?She wants our 8 by 10 photo we took, the promise ring, and won't change her fb status between us being in a relationship. They say that jumping into another relationship is unhealty I'm confused let me know what you all think? It all started by saying she needed her space
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): its called wasting your time. she`s a shiy kinda girlfriend. shows just how easily dustracted she is.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 February 2011):
Pull it from under her. Accept she has already moved on, and cut contact entirely. Never again let her into your life, do not answer her questions, calls, emails. Nothing. You do not have to give back the promise ring or the photo of they were gifts to you, of it you bought them. And take no notice about her facebook status.
Cut this girl entirely from your life. Don't allow yourself to appear desperate or to become a doormat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2011): My suspicions are that she wants it both ways:
- She wants to scare you by repossing her items and by staging a "new relationship"
- She refuses to change her online status because she thinks this is temporary and it's only a matter of time you'll do something dramatic to win her back
OR she really is just saddistic and trying to get under your skin.
I doubt this is really a strategy on her part, it sounds like she's just acting out. Either way she sounds like a drama queen and although I'm sure it's rough now she's probably doing you a huge favor by leaving you.
If you are interested at all in getting her back, be the mature one. She may come to her senses.
- Any item that she bought, give back to her.
- If you bought her an item as a gift, it would make sense to give it to her. Why would you want your ex-girlfriend's promise ring anyway? You make a statement when you give these things back that you are moving on.
- If she wants the photo, give it to her. Do you really want to remember someone who treats you so badly.
- Change your face book status to single and mark that you are looking for a relationship. If someone asks you why she thinks she's still in a relationship, tell them to ask her. She is making a fool of herself and doesn't realize it quite yet.
If she does come back to you she owes you a HUGE apology. That said, I don't know if you should take her back.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (2 February 2011):
 What she's doing is just not nice. On facebook, just change your status to single, hers will change to just "in a relationship"
You can either give her the stuff back, or tell her she doesn't deserve to have it back as she's hurt you. Then you can put it all in a box and hide it in your wardrobe or put it in the attic, so it's there if you do want to look at it, but you don't have to if you feel it'll just hurt more.
It's horrible not knowing what it is you want to know, but sometimes we don't always get what we want. This is clearly a rebound relationship, she'll come crawling back soon enough, and you can tell her to get lost, or try and work things out, at the very least you can get the answers you feel you need.
She broke up with you, and started seeing 'a friend' a week after, shows how much she really cares about you...
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reader, auntieloulou +, writes (2 February 2011):
 I think the fact that she is in a new relationship straight away makes me think that she told you she wanted space because she wanted to break up with you but was a coward and made some phoney excuse. or maybe she just wanted space but met someone immediately and could not help liking him. maybe she met the guy whilst in a relationship with you and wanted the break from you to test the waters with him. i think you should dignify this by moving on, give her the picture and ring etc and leave her be. i know its hard, you've been together a long time, but it will become easier. don't be a last resort for her. she's wrong to not be honest with you. be amicable and thats it. move on with your life, you'll get there.
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