A
female
age
30-35,
*obynnex
writes:Heywell ive been seeing this guy since august last year.and well basically my best friend has taken him of me.she liked some guy in her work he doesnt like her . She knows how much i like this guy and she pure hits on him and stuff infront of me.Last night we were all up at his .And shes pure sitting with her legs around him and all that flirting away .they nealrly kissed the only reason they didnt was because i walked out the room,So i left the party and she was sending me cheeky texts saying am ik taking the piss and thati know iot might not seem a big deal to anyone but she doesnt realise how muich shes hurt me weve been best friend s for 14 years and she does this so im never talking to either of them again.am io over reacting i feel as if i am ?.x
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reader, robynnex +, writes (11 May 2008):
robynnex is verified as being by the original poster of the question hey thanks so much all of you.!
yeah everyone says i shouldnt speak to her again i wasnt planinning to anyway,
im so angry at her. Shes done this because a guy she likes doesnt like her and because shes unhappy shes tried to ruin my life.
But actually shes done me a favour
both of them are out of it now.
I feel so much happier and a tottally different person.
One thing tho shes acting like shes done nothing wrong.!
thanks again.
xxx
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reader, Twirly +, writes (11 May 2008):
 You're not over-reacting at all. I had a friend like this when I was your age and I never kept in touch with her after leaving A-level college. She went off with my boyfriend on New Years Eve would you believe!
She went on to have a pretty unhappy life and 18 years later I recently found out via another friend that she is divorced, depressed and battling an eating disorder.
Im not saying Im happy about that, I wouldn't wish unhappiness on anybody but it I thought it may help you to hear that people who treat their friends badly tend to end up lonely and unhappy in later life.
Your boyfriend sounds pretty pathetic too, rise above both of them and don't look back!
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (11 May 2008):
 Drop this nasty little girl out of your life.
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reader, ozgirl  +, writes (11 May 2008):
the guy you were seeing is immature and selfish, more interested in female attention from anyone who will give it than a relationship with a sensible normal person.
your ex friend is also immature and selfish.. but more than that it's clear she has quite low self esteem. not everybody is 'obviously' lacking self esteem at first, then situations like this arise.. and rather than being confident enough in herself to just be happy for you she feels an overwhelming desire to tear you down - in turn making her feel better (for a little while).
unfortunately there seems to be quite a few people in the world who are like these two. This probably won't be your last encounter with 'silly' people.
you are intelligent and confident enough to know they don't deserve to be your life anymore.. and the fact that you asked for confirmation that you're not overreacting just shows you're a genuinely kind and compassionate person.
stick to your guns, they deserve each other.. but neither of them deserve YOU!
friends should enrich your life, not create stress and upset you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): She isn't a friend. On the other hand, she may have done you a favor, because he only looks at the outside and not the inside of a person. There is more to looks and personality. Under certain conditions in life, you can find that a certain personality will not work, that is a personality that doesn't have room for trust, compassion, caring, etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): Not at all. I think I would be just as upset if I were you. There are guys everywhere, they can come up with so much crap like this... but what happens when the trust and loyalty are broken in a 14 year-long friendship? OUCH!!!!!
Sorry, but she may not be best friend material after all. And of course, he's not boyfriend material either. You have every right to be upset.
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