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*hbetheone
writes:Me and my girlfriend broke up 2 months ago. We were together for 3 years, bought a home together, talked about marrage and children. Then one day says she fell out of love. I did the no contact and it worked she was calling all the time. Now she stopped now calls twice a week. The weird thing is its as if I died two months ago, like I never existed. I think about her a few times a day. I just wonder if she is thinking about me. I just dont get it? She was telling me the day it was over how with her exes it was over but with she dosent know, that the feeling can come back at any time; told her parents the same thing. When we bump into each other at the gym I smile and am nice to her. She tells me all that she has been up to and what she is doing for the day.I never ask, I dont tell her anything of what im up to to keep me mysterious. She said she wanted to be friends but she is not trying at all, Im not either.I dont know she is driving me nuts. I cannot pick up anything on her at all.HELPPPP!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2007): I feel your pain.
#1 Stop going to that gym or make sure you go when she won't be there. You need to continue the no-call but add the no-see and no-answer phone calls for now. Let her start thinking she might never see you again. Make her try hard to get in touch with you. I would cut off all contact for at least 3-4 months. When and if you speak with her you need to sound disinterested. If she pushes the friend angle tell her you don't really need any new friends.
#2 You don't want to be her friend. Some women are complete morons and think a man can go from sleeping with her to just being her little buddy pal to chat with over tea.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 October 2007):
 There's something I don't quite get. You were together, then you split; you were friends, but now no one is interested in keeping the friendship. Where is the problem?
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (15 October 2007):
Consider yourself gently dumped. Move on and stop living in the past. She ain't playin your game.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): I think you are best rid of her to be honest. Why do you want to be friends? It seems to me like she likes to play games and she will always be that way. If someone told me that they had fallen out of love with me then that would be it. I wouldnt give them the time of day and certainly wouldnt want to waste my time being their friend either. Get to grips and move on. Dont look back, meet someone who you really deserve and i bet she will want you back then. Tough!!! Give your love to someone else. Better days are ahead and you really should not go back.
take care
xx
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