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female
age
30-35,
*ajuu
writes:Okay here is my problem me and my girlfriend have been together for like 5 months now and she hasn't told her mom yet. Then her mom set her up with some guy and she had to date him and she was still dating me!!! This really hurt my feelings but I let it slide. They broke up and she is still with me but everytime someone is flirting with her I get extremely angry even though their only playing an she isn't even responding to it. I love her I really do, but what happened still effects me how can I handle this?
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reader, babewithbrains  +, writes (12 October 2008):
 Oh, ah, I see.
Religion is a wonderful and bloody annyoing thing. It can mean that you have a day where you have to eat doughnuts, (judaism, if you're interested)
A day to celebrate the coming of a God that noones seen in 2000 years+ .
And it can mean blowing up a plane of innocent people,
or
Sepparating to lovers because they are the same sex, or too different a background for their parents to allow it.
however.
It is different with your own children. Trust me, I know this, my brother came out some mounths ago. My parents, who are quite religious, were just glad thathe was sure of himself, and that he was happy the way he is.
Have you told your parents? That you are in love with another girl?
Well, be grateful for small mercies, at least her dad wont know his childs a lesbian until later.
I have nothing against homosexual relationships. But There are some people who have, you'll just have to cross your fingers, step on your foot and wing it.
I'm, sure that your girlfriend won't get kicked out her house. Her mum may not be happy, but when she realises things like: my daughters not going to get pregnant. My daughter's happy and doing well at shcool. My daughter's got a best friend who'll stick by her.
I agree, mind, it will be scary. I don't think you should be there when she tells her mum. but you should be near her house, I dunno, in a cafe or your house if it's near hers. s you can see her mum asap.
Good Luck,
Jelly
xxxx
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reader, Rajuu +, writes (29 September 2008):
Rajuu is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice but I already met her mom and she likes me her dad I haven't met hes in the army. Umm the big problem with telling her mom is that her mom is very religious and we're both scared that she might get real angry about it and disown her. She wants to wait til she graduates but I still get jealous I wanna know what I can do to stay calm when people flirt with her.
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (29 September 2008):
you should meet her parents. She should tell them about you. It's important if you want to carry on seeing her. Come round to her house, give her mother a bunch of (nice) flowers in tissue paper not cellophane and and shake hands with her father. First impressons count. you have to look good. You can always be who you are with your girl friend but her parents are sooo much more easy to get on the wrong side of, and after that, it's game over.
Well, good luck,
Jelly
xxx
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