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*othm001
writes:I have been dating my girlfriend for a month and a half and within the first week of our relationship we began having sex. Every time we had intercourse she "acted" like she was orgasming and I didn't question her but I had my doubts. Well about a week ago I gave her oral sex and used my fingers as well. She had an orgasm and after she went on to say how it was the best orgasm she's ever had and that it was amazing. It definitly boosted my ego and I just thought she had a really good orgasm. We had sex several more times and she had another great orgasm. Afterwards she told me that she had been faking her orgasms all along except for the 2 that i described as her great orgasms. She said that she always felt she was the type of girl you hear about that is incapable of orgasming and how she was embarassed and didnt want me to be disappointed. I felt upset she had been lying and putting on an act when we were intimate, especially since I had told her in my past i had problems with performance anxiety and sometimes with women in my past i had erection problems and/or ejaculation problems. I have been 100% honest about myself with her and now im having trust issues and doubts when we are together now, should I worry and how can i ensure her satisfaction? Also does this mean she may be dishonest in general? I really like her but am disappointed she wasn't honest and upfront about this, as I opened up to her about the same issue. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): she did it because she did not want to make you feel bad, she put your feelings before her own needs.
she has told you know though, some women never say.
be happy she told you the truth, its alot better than continuing as you were. hang onto this girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): But she WAS honest with you - eventually.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (17 May 2009):
 And what was she supposed to do? Tell you, you were a bad lay? Most women feel they can't do that, so if the guy doesn't do it for them, they fake it.
If you had your suspicions for so long, you should have tried harder. Women don't fake it because they enjoy faking it. They fake it because they don't want to upset the guy.
If you are the one guy in history who would have preffered to be told you were bad, then how was she supposed to know.
Seems to me, you need a reality check.
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (17 May 2009):
 She did it for a good readon, the best thing to do is to let it go. Forget this little lie! Xxx
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