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writes:I have a fourteen year old friend (girl) who self-harms, as in she cuts herself, but I don't know what kind of advice to give her. What kind of advice would you give to a fourteen year old girl who self-harms for attention? Reply to this Question
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reader, kieth  +, writes (9 June 2009):
You sound concerned about your friend who self-harm.Try not to leave her whenever she's down and feel depressed. Or maybe try this link if it might help you. solutionbay.org and look for this title. "How to help someone who had tried to commit suicide?"
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reader, X-Chlo-X  +, writes (20 May 2009):
 I don't like to admit it but I used to do the same thing , you could just tell her all the good things she has and don't remind her of the bad , if you can keep her company and keep her smiling (if it's possible ) good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): I used to self harm by cutting myself too.
I would recommend just being there for her if she wants to talk about it, but try not to get angry with her about it. Don't make it into a big deal if possible. And try not to pressure her into talking about it.
But I do think that she should get some help from a professional. While you can be there for her as her friend, she will probably need more professional input to get to the bottom of her issues. Take care of yourself too, this must be difficult for you as well. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): She needs to see a psychologist....
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reader, Anyquestion +, writes (17 May 2009):
 I had a friend who used to self harm.It got so bad that she tried to commit suicide by slitting her wrists.But there was nothing wrong with her life.I don't think she was doing it for the attention,i think she was trying to be a 'emo'.But when i found out that she was trying to commit suicide i told her parents.They came down on her really hard and they took everything she could self harm with away.At first she hated me.But then she realised that i was helping her.But the best yhing you can do is just be there ther for her!!!AND DONT GET CAUGHT UO IN IT YOURSELF!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): I suggest you speak to her telling her you are worried for her welfare, and suggest that she gets help from a professional. You could even go with her if it helps.
Good luck!
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