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writes:hi..ima start off by saying im 15. i had a bf for a lil more than a year now. my mom found out we had sex and she was upsett. she told me that we shoulldnt anymore, but i did. i felt bad for lying to her and i dont wanna lose her trust. well last week i was suposed to get my period on wed. but earlier on in the week i had spotting and this week i still never got my period. please dont judge me im already soo scared. i had preg. scares before but never like this. im gonna get a a preg test and see what it says. if its neg. than ill move on but if its positive idk what im gonna doo:\ pleasee i need advice. im really really scared and idk what too doo.
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reader, Zanie +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Don't jump the gun. I have missed an entire period on stress and was not pregnant. There are a number of reason women miss periods. However, you definitely need a test.
If that test comes out positive...you have difficult times ahead. You need to tell your mother. You and your mother need to decide what is best for you and your future. You must tell your mother as soon as possible.
There are three options:
1. If you are in your first term, you can get a abortion. This will depend greatly on your faith, and personal beliefs. If this is your choice, they can either surgically remove it, and you will have a week recovery. you also can chemically remove it with a series of pills.
2. You can carry the baby to term, and give it up to a family who can't have chilren. This is a great gift of life to someone who cant have kids who might be able to care for your baby when you cannot. There are options such as open adoptions, where you can still have contact with your child though you are not raising your child or considered it's legal guardian.
3. You can keep it. Depending on your parent's financial situation and scheldule... you may be able to work something out. This would have to be a mutual decision between your mother and you. However, you may not be able to continue school. If this happens, you should definitely enroll in a GED program. I would also recommend parenting classes.
Okay, I understand mom said no and you said yes. Some people believe abstinence works, and it's proven that hormones overtake virtue. But why! Why didn't you use condoms or get birth control. In the US, we all know about sex super young, and we all know about these things. It's all over MTV. There is the 16 and pregnant show. You were unresponsible. This is not a judgment, this is fact. The fact that you said you have had SEVERAL scares, is terrible. This means you have repeatedly made this mistake. There is no reason for this. Please take precautions in the future! Just think, ten minutes of taking precaution will prevent you from having this stress or worse....
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (26 May 2010):
 Look all you can do is take the pregnancy test and hope for the best. The problem is that when you are an underage teenager like yourself, you think you can do what you want and dont think of the consequences. But you cannot act like this when you have sex - sex = babies unless you take precuations. If you are not responsible enough to take precautions then you are not ready to be having sex - simple as that!
If the test comes back negative then you can thank your lucky stars and get yourself straight down to the doctors to get some birth control, and some condoms. Your doctor cannot tell your parents that you visited them so you have NO reason whatsoever not to start taking birth control. If you are worried your mum might find your pill, well you could either just be honest or ask the doctor for the injection, you only have to go to the doctors once every 3 months so you wont have to have any pills at home. While you are at the doctors you also need a STD test - you could have caught something nasty if you have not been using condoms so you must get tested.
If the test comes back positive - again you need to go to the doctors and get them to do a test so they can confirm you are actually pregnant. Then you are going to have to tell your mum - you cannot handle this alone at your age so you need a responsible adult to take care of you. And then you will need to think about what you want to do, if you want to keep it or have an abortion, or maybe give it up for adoption. There are lots of options available for you but you need to find out first if you are pregnant, there is no point in worrying about it now until you have done a pregnancy test. Stress itself can actually stop your periods, along with a number of other things so worrying is not going to help you.
I hope for your sake you are not pregnant, and then if this is the case please go to the doctors right away - surely this time you will learn your lesson and stop acting like a baby. You said you have had scares in the past - why on earth have you not sorted out birth control and condoms before now? The reason sex is something only adults should be doing is because of situations like this - a responsible, mature adult would not have unprotected sex if they did not want a child. They would have birth control, condoms - or they simply would not have sex.
I'm sorry if you wanted someone to be nice to you and tell you it is all going to be ok - but the reality of the situation is quite different. YOU have made the choice to have unprotected sex, now it is time to deal with the consequences. Only your mum will be the person who is able to comfort you, I think once you have taken this pregnancy test it is time for you to start being honest with her.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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