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writes:im 148 months pregnant and i was raped yesterday someone came into my home and hit me and raped me while my family wasnt homecould it have harmed my baby??im afraid to be left alone now.. could it have been planned? does this man know me? he knew i was on my own could he be watching me??i feel so silly because of how scared i am..i want to tell someone an adult but im too terrified i just cant tell my dad hed just break downhelp please thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2008): hello how are you. how is your baby if you are still on??
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): do u know wat the guy looked like?
U have to inform the police, it will b awkward but its 4 the best.
Discribe than man to the cops, voice, hir, eyes, etc.
This should not be tolerated
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reader, ice knight +, writes (9 August 2007):
shit!! look if i were you i would just try and tell someone you really trust an maybe call the police but if you dont want your dad to know call childline or summit but you need to tell sum1 u cant bottle it up and u shuldnt feel scared you have every rite to b but just make sure that you have a freind wiv u
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reader, Sexy123  +, writes (8 August 2007):
You're welcome. You did the right thing.
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reader, Sexy123 +, writes (8 August 2007):
OMG!
you were pregnant and you got raped.
you need to go tell someone you were raped.
you dont know if the guy who raped you had a disease.
you could harm the baby if your planing to keep it.
i no how it feels to get raped not something you enjoy.
i been through it and i was scared to tell anyone but you have to i did. I told 3 days later.
you have to be strong and tell someone.
you parents or siblings.
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reader, duckybucks +, writes (8 August 2007):
Oh my god! you need to call some one and report this raping! That is really illegal and you should not be scared, but should stay with someone, especially after the baby is born. Good Luck!
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (7 August 2007):
 Heya hun.
Telling your dad will be hard and very difficult but as your dad I feel he would want to know and be able to help you.
I'm glad your tests came back ok although I thought you couldn't get results on the spot for STIs and HIV. I had to wait for mine but maybe your doctors are different to mine.
Don't be afraid to ask for help if you feel you need someone to talk to or anything. Worst thing you can do is bottle the experience up. I know that from experience.
xxxxxxx
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reader, love-him +, writes (7 August 2007):
 Hey bbe, i wish u all the luck in the world, keep me updated x x x
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reader, Beckto +, writes (7 August 2007):
 Great news!! Good for you!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thanks for the advice i went to the doctors today everythings fine and i have no STD'sthey helped me find the right approach to tell my dad I'm going to tell my dad at tea time (in about an hour) I'm real nervous so wish me luckthanks you for all your time and helpI wish you all the best x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): Sweetheart, please dont feel bad about being scared. Youhave every right too. Call your doctor, call the cops, tell your parents and hang in there. Your baby needs you to be strong. Be kind to yourself, and get help. Your child will thank you for it.Love and hugs.
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reader, penta +, writes (6 August 2007):
 If you can't talk to your parents, you should talk to a school counselor. Ask them to call the police and then get you to a doctor. I'm not sure about the laws there, but here the doctor and police can't tell your parents if you don't want them to.
But you need to tell someone. You need to see a doctor, and you'll feel safer if you talk to the police. If they can catch this guy, then the next woman he looks at will be safer.
Good luck hon.
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reader, Beckto +, writes (6 August 2007):
You HAVE GOT to tell someone. For the sake of your unborn baby, you HAVE GOT to tell someone. If this rapist had an STD, it could complicate things with your pregnancy. If you feel you can't tell your family, then go to your doctor IMMEDIATELY and tell him/her what happened.
You have every right to be scared and worried.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. It wasn't your fault, so don't worry about that.
Now that you have some adult responsibilities (like having a baby), so you have to act like an adult and tell your doctor, at least! It's difficult being an adult sometimes, but what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. This won't kill you, so use that strength you have and do what you have to do. As a matter of fact, telling your doctor WILL make things better. You can get tests done and they can tell you if anything happened to you or your baby.
Take care of yourself, sweetheart.
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reader, love-him +, writes (6 August 2007):
rite babe, first off, tell someone! i was raped at 12, and didnt tell anyone until i was 15 which was the worst thing because i waited to long and my rapist has never been caught. You need tests done on you so it can help the police. You cannot be alone going through this. There is a chance it could have harmed your baby, so i strongly agree you tell someone.. and also if you havent already, dont shower or bath because that will wash away evidence.
Mail me if you would like to talk at all.. I wish u the best of luck with your baby and hope you are ok.. x x x
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (6 August 2007):
First off hunni, don't feel silly for being scared. That is perfectly normal after what you went through.
Secondly as much as it'll hurt your family you need to tell your dad or mum or both what happened. And the police so that this guy can be found and locked up.
Thirdly I would go see your doctor as soon as possible. Sex doesn't harm a baby but if he was too rough then he might of done. Also you will need to be tested for STIs and AIDS as if you have no clue who this guy was then he could have anything.
I have no idea if this guy knows you, or how he new you were on your own. But if you really don't want to be left alone, and I don't blame you for that, then you NEED to tell someone.
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