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anonymous
writes:Hi im 16. I have a FWB who's 18. Well...i guess he's my friend with benefits. Anyhow, he invited me to a drinking party, ive never drank before so i want to go and try some. The thing is is that we would have to sleep over because its kinda far away..we would share a bed. I know he wants sex. I want him to be my first but he's leaving in a month and i will only see him around christmas, and i dont want that, i want to see him more than that. And i dont know if i should just save myself for marriage or not, i come from a religious background so its VERY frowned upon. I really want to go but i dont know what to do! Please help!
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reader, penta +, writes (6 August 2007):
 You know what the answer is. If you felt comfortable with this plan, you wouldn't need to ask us. The plan -- go someplace with someone you won't every have a long-term relationship with, drink (which lowers your inhibitions) and share a bed, will mean that you'll have sex and not see the person afterwards. I don't think you'll be happy with that after it happens.
Don't go. Wait until you've been a committed relationship before you give someone your virginity -- that may be marriage and it may not, but at least you'll know the guy wants you for you, not just for a good time right now.
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (6 August 2007):
No he isn't your Bf. And and if he were he wouldn't be introducing you to drinking. Nor would he want to use you body just to satisfy his genital needs.The best thing for you to do in that relationship, is for you to end it now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2007): Don't go. You'll regret it afterwards. It's a drinking party, people basically drink and "have fun." Drinking has nothing fabulous in it, it just makes you act unrationally. You say you know what he wants, and as you say that you already wish for more. But surprise, more is unavailable. Don't do it. You'd like someone really special for the first time. How come he invites you to a drinking party, have you thought? What's this lack of respect? You should teach this kid the amount of respect you are to receive. It's not polite of a boy to ask the girl at some bottles of whisky and wine and... Are there no other boys around? Wait for someone who deserves you, goodness...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (6 August 2007):
 Yikes, sounds like trouble to me. You haven't any experience with drinking or sexual intercourse and you will be surrounded by a house full of drunks! I'd rethink this plan, you may be setting yourself up for a world of hurt and regrets, honey.
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