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writes:I've a question for the girls out there about responding to texts.Ok.....I'll give a quick example on my situation and then you can hopefully ease my impatient side.I was with this girl at my friends 21st Birthday. She was a lovely girl and we got on very well that night. We couldn't stop being together for the whole night even when people got up to dance, minutes later we'd be sitting down, kissing etc...That night i thought since i don't want to look clingy or put loads of pressure on this girl, it would be a better idea to give her my number and let her make the decision on calling/texting me. Rather than me rushing into things (since previous times, I've either moved to fast and freaked them out or they really just wanted a 1 nighter or whatever their reasons where _)What I find hard to understand is why she hasn't texted me yet and why she takes so long to answer ! I'm not gonna freak out if u text quick. I don't think like that -.-So since i got a little impatient, I sent her a message on Facebook politely asking if she wanted to go out. Minutes later it says "seen by 'time'" and then she updates some stuff on her profile and I didn't get a response -.-Do i take it that she only had fun that one night? Do I wait longer? Did she only like me for reasons unknown to me for that night? most importantly....why cant girls stop mindf*ckn guys and just answer :/I'm a nice guy and I know girls get hurt in relationships....but not every guy is the same -.-Please give me some sort of understanding to this. I like this girl and obviously one side of me will accept if she doesn't want to go out again and the other side is like please just stop delaying on purpose...:/
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (27 November 2012):
 She isn't interested, I'm sorry.
If she didn't reply all that fast on text and not at all to the "date -invite" - then she isn't interested.
Or did she not text you at all after you gave her your number? If that is the thing, then she really isn't at all interested in more then a guy to kiss on at that given party.
Maybe next time ask a girl out and get to know her BEFORE you stick your tongue down her throat.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (27 November 2012):
Well to be honest I also often take my time deciding after reading a message like that. For example when I'm not sure how I feel about the guy who's asking me. I once waited for 2 days and got a really angry follow-up message from a guy asking why the hell it was taking me so long to answer. Safe to say that I declined his offer after that. So give it some time. If she likes you, she'll be in touch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2012): Don't message her again! She might be mindfucking cause she thinks you're being too..forward too quick
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2012): Guys do the same thing. They ignore texts and facebook messages, too. I automatically assume it's because they aren't interested, and move on. You would be wise to do the same, because you're only wasting your time if you don't.
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reader, N91  +, writes (26 November 2012):
 If she wanted to reply, she would do.
Maybe she already thinks that you're a little needy with the facebook message. I know a lot of girls that will kiss anything in sight when they've had a few drinks. It doesn' neccesarily mean anything deeper than a drunken kiss.
Just cut your losses and move on. If she replies, great. If not, then you have an answer still.
Hope this helps
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): Firstly i am so happy that there are guys like u out there. They seem few and far between recently. Ive no doubt ud b a great guy but all you can do now is leave it up to her. The ball is in her court. Dont txt or contact her anymore. She wouldnt appreciate that. Maybe she just isnt looking for anything right now?... who knows.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): Im 23. The only reason I wont answer a txt: working, busy, dont recieve it or my phones dead. My guess is she only wanted a one night romance and is too chicken to say anything. I dont like when ppl beat around the bush either
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reader, [?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] +, writes (26 November 2012):
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png) Hmm, you never know with those. Maybe she doesn't want to end up in a relationship or she's playing hard to get but that's on one side. On the other side she could be shy and really nervous but not sure. You'll have to try and talk to her, not all girls are the same either, we don't all mind fu.ck guys! Just give her time and try to talk to her, like ask for her number and call her maybe then she won't feel as awkward. :) And maybe you'll get a reason why she hasn't texted you. Let her know you want to get to know her more and that she should go out with you some time. :] Let her know how you're different and that you're not like the rest, I know there's a lot of guys who say that but you should prove it to her, actions speak louder than words. Good luck (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2012): My advise is to let her decide what she wants to do, she's got your number and your message on facebook, she's either not interested or she's taking her time to get back to you. Definitely don't message her again, just wait for her to see if she will respond. Some girls don't mean to mindf*ck you guys, we are just taking our time :) don't worry about it, if she wants to see you, she will get in contact, hope it helps :)
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