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writes:I think im pregnant but im not sure. I started my period today. I thought it was strange because me and my boyfriend have been going at it everyday for the last two weeks. (I know there is only a 25% chance of getting pregnant without using a condom.) So I looked it up on the internet to see if you could still be have your period normally while pregnant and so It says that it is possible and very "common" but its not really your period) I like to go by numbers and be prepared so could anyone tell me the chances of keeping your "period" while your pregnant?? I'm just very anxious.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (23 March 2009):
 The sarcasm in your respose to our answers on here just shows your lack of maturity, a mature grown up can accept criticism and use it constructively whereas a child will respond with sarcasm. I think you may have just proved us all right.
In all seriousness if you have thought about this properly and have enough money of your own (not mum and dad's money) then good luck to you. I wish you all the best and I hope you dont become just another statistic.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for your criticism :) Obviously you do not know my financial state or how mature I am. If I wanted some criticism I would of posted Looking for criticism please need some! My family doesn't give me enough of it!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (18 March 2009):
It unfortunately does sound like you are trying to get pregnant, which will mean that this is just another silly young girl who wants a baby because she thinks it will be fun and nice!
Thankfully this month you are not pregnant, you have had a period therefore you are not pregnant. 2 weeks isnt really long enough to be able to tell anyway.
But I hope that you stop having unprotected sex and realise that you have all the time in the world to have a baby, you are too young to be having one right now. You are not married, I doubt you and your boyfriend have jobs (or at least a proper job with a good income and career prospects). I bet you dont own your own home together, and have not saved any money towards having a baby. Maybe if you have done all of these things then you will prove me wrong but it seems pretty unlikely.
You really should be married if you want a baby; you will end up getting pregnant, your boyfriend will get scared and run a mile. or if he does stick around for a while, oneday you will split up and it will just be another child without a proper family. As for your finances; babies are very expensive! Both of you need jobs to support a child - you need to have savings and career prospects as children get more and more expensive as they grow older. What if your child wants to go to college? Can you afford to send them there? Not without a proper job that has career prospects. Where are you, your boyfriend and the baby going to live? You need a family home to bring the child up as a family, not just in your bedroom at home with your mum and dad.
You are still a child yourself and you should be either at college learning new things in preparation for a career, or you should be in a job that you enjoy and that is taking you somewhere in life. You should be enjoying life; going out and having fun, seeing the world etc etc. A baby will mean that all the fun things you want to do have to be put on hold until that child has grown up and moved out - this could be anything from 18-30 years! Are you really ready to give up the next 18-30 years of your life to a child, forgetting about all of your dreams and ambitions in order to dedicate all of your time to this child?
A baby cannot just be dumped on your mum and dad when things get tough - this is your responsibility and you have to live with the consequences of your actions. So you can forget about going out with your friends, forget about going on holiday for the foreseeable future, forget about having any money for yourself to go shopping, forget about getting any sleep for the next couple of years and forget about having any time to yourself.
I understand that as a woman, it is a natural urge to have a baby. You will see kids in the street and think "I want one of them!". But in reality, you need to think about the quality of life you can give that child. Do you think you could give the child the life it deserves now, or would it have a better life if you waited 5 years? There is no rush to have a baby, if you and your boyfriend really love each other then you will still be together in 5 years time and will have more money, more maturity etc to be able to provide for that child.
Keep the baby as a dream for now, concentrate on building your career so that in the future, you can start your own little family. I hope you take this on board, there are so many girls that want a baby but then the reality hits and they wish they had waited longer.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 March 2009):
Where the hell did you pull 25% from??
It's more like 85%.
http://www.contraceptivetechnology.com/table.html
If you want to get pregnant then that's fine, but sorry, starting your period means it hasn't happened this month. If you've been on the pill then it can take a while for your body to wake up again. Take folic acid and see your doctor for more advice.
If you are not trying to get pregnant then you are truly an idiot to be acting like this.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, tux +, writes (18 March 2009):
 I get the feeling that you are trying to get pregnant. If that is the case, I would recommend rethinking it and make sure you are ready to have a child, if you already don't have one on the way. You might think you are ready, but can you take care of it mentally and fiscally? A baby needs a lot of attention and to get that attention, you cannot be out having any fun.. Your funtime will come with having funtime with your kid.
But as far as percentages go.. Throw them out the window.. My wife got pregnant the first time we had sex together. So much for that 25% statistic. Statistics on a personal level mean nothing because there will be cases where a couple will take 5 years to conceive and other couples who will only take 1 act of sex to conceive.. in the end, they all average out to a certain lower percentage..
Anyways, I hope everything goes well in which ever endeavour you end up doing.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (18 March 2009):
 Never play this "numbers" game when it comes to unprotected sex. You're just asking for an unplanned pregnancy if you do. It's just not worth it unless you want to get pregnant. But if not, then there is no such thing as a 25% chance of getting pregnant. You either get pregnant, or you get lucky and you don't get pregnant. That's it.
Yes, some women have a period, or something akin, during their first month or two.
We can't give you your "stats", which are unreliable when trying to plan against pregnancy. The only 100% way to not get pregnant is to not have sex. Period.
Wait a week, take an at home test. That's the best any of us can tell you to do. Every woman's cycle is different, and every woman has different fertility days. Plus, when you factor in the fact that sperm can live inside the walls of the vagina for several days before fertilizing an egg, your "odds" become less than favorable, and the risk becomes greater than 25%. I really don't know where you got that number from.
Take a test, let us know how it goes! See a doctor if you want to be certain.
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