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writes:Heya.My sister, Steph (16) met a guy on the net last may, and she is obsessed with him and wants to meet him!Im really worried that he will turn out to be someone other than what he is saying he is!Please help me help my sister!!!!!!!!!!!!!From~tasha xXx
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reader, WiccanWonder +, writes (19 April 2008):
WiccanWonder is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks dudes and dudettes =)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 April 2008):
London is very far away and if she gets in trouble so far from home she could have a real problem.
I think you need to talk to her about her plans and try and convince her it's stupid to go alone.
If she can't take someone with her then she just can't take that risk.
If you think she is planning to go then threaten to tell your parents. You cannot let her take off on the train to go and meet someone who could be a kidnapper.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, WiccanWonder +, writes (19 April 2008):
WiccanWonder is verified as being by the original poster of the questioncompacmaniac, it wouldnt really help if i came... as im only 12 but thanks anyway =-)
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reader, WiccanWonder +, writes (19 April 2008):
WiccanWonder is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is, he is from london and we are from cornwall, so she cant meet him very easily with friends...And because he is so far away, im worried she will just leave on the train on her own or something =-\Also thanks guys =)
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (19 April 2008):
 Tasha you sound more streetwise than your older sister Steph.
You are right he could be a pervert,but as Emily said if she does have her heart set on metting this guy then I suggest she should go with friends.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (19 April 2008):
Meeting someone off the net is fine as long as you follow rules.
1. Meet in a public place in a shopping centre.
2. She should take you or some other friends with you, even they stand back and watch from a distance.
3. She shouldn't go anywhere private with this guy, go to a cafe and chat there. There is no reason to go anywhere else.
4. If he seems anything other than genuine run a mile.
If he doesn't like the fact she brought friends for back up then he is dodgy. If he seems older than he said he is, he's dodgy. If his "dad" turns up and says he'll take her to him, run away.
As long as she goes with a suspicious mind and goes with a few friends, and tells her parents when she is going to be back, then she should be ok.
But you are right to worry about her. There are lots of safety guides on the net, tell her to do some research. And tell her it's not immature or stupid to make sure she has back up plans. I'm 25 and if I was meeting someone off the net then I would do exactly the same thing.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): tell her your concerns and say that you want to come with her and see..tell her if he does turn out to be the person he said he was then you'll stay away from them..remind her that a few people on the net are weird old men and tell her that you just want to make sure. i went with a group of my friends to meet someone i met on the net just in case. hope this helps..
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reader, dan.1 +, writes (19 April 2008):
all you can do is talk 2 her and tell her that there are a lot of pervs out there and he could be one. ask her what would she do if he isnt what he says and takes her away rapes her and then most probably kill her. sorry to say it like that but you need to scare her from going
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