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Do I stay or do I go?

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Question - (19 April 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 19 April 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *ovesickpup writes:

recently i met a lad who is afew months younger than me i am 18 and he is 17 wel he turns 18 this week we met in a pub i gave him my number and we arranged to meet up we met up and i really liked him we started goin out and then he finished with me the next day because i was ment to be moving to spain with my family after my grandad passed away and he didnt see the point but i told him that i could stay here if i wanted to i was 18 and i would stay if we were together so we went back out then yesturday my grandad passed away and it was also this lads birthday party i went up to his and he told me he didnt want to be in a relationship he didnt want commitment which i can understand as he has always gone out with girls two years younger than him and gone through real bad stuff being threaternd by there parents and stuff so that i can understand but wen i was at the party i did speak to him and he said that he likes me but just isnt ready and that he still doesnt want me to go and move to spain with my family he does want me to stay so i am confused i made a ryt mess up at the party and he is angry at me and for causing so many arguments but what do i do ?

do i stay and see if it could work cause i really like him an awful lot

or

do i leave and try and move on with my life and try and forget about him completely

lovesickpup x

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A female reader, Tanya101 United States +, writes (19 April 2008):

I think he just wants to know you're there. Incase he changes his mind, he can come running back to you. It's not because he wants you there, to talk to and whatnot. Just so he knows he has someone to run to when everything has gone wrong.

I think you should move to Spain, or stay, whatever YOU want. Because if he ever dose come back, he seems like the selfish type.

The best of luck.

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A female reader, Tanya101 United States +, writes (19 April 2008):

I think he just wants to know you're there. In case he changes his mind, he can come running back to you. It's not because he wants you there, to talk to and whatnot. Just so he knows he has someone to run to when everything has gone wrong.

I think you should move to Spain, or stay, whatever YOU want. Because if he ever does come back, he seems like the selfish type.

The best of luck.

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (19 April 2008):

I believe you have to be selfish and do the thing that is best for you.

This guy has said he's not interested in taking this relationship seriously and now he's annoyed at you and his friends aren't going to like you that much.

Go to Spain with your family and try and get over him.

You can always talk on the net, and if you are still head over heels with him after a month or two, come back to the UK on holiday to stay with friends and see him.

That way if it is meant to be then it has a chance, and if it is not meant to be then you aren't stuck a thousand miles from your family and on your own.

Good Luck!! xx

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