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anonymous
writes:I am finding I am experiencing a very hard time in forgetting a girl who I loved.We were very good friends and I had told her about my feelings. She was not sure that time. However after sometime we had an affair. I had initially thought she loved me so she had that affair. But suddenly our workplace changed and we got separated. She started an affair with another guy. We spoke over the phone daily. When she broke off with that guy she called me 24*7 and looked upto me for support. Having loved her so much, i helped her.Now she is with another guy and we dont speak anymore. I love her so much that not an hour goes by when she does not cross my mind.She is in my company posted in a different place. I am considering changing my company to forget her because i feel its from here were it all started. I want to move to an entirely different place where nobody reminds me of her and i be assured that i will never meet her. Because if i ever do i dont know what it will be like, I think I will feel so hurt, still. Please tell me a way to forget her.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (24 March 2013):
 OP,Its not my place to judge someone,but from your post it comes off like she wanted the best of both worlds!Now you clearly told her you liked her,she wasn't ready but still had an affair,so she' played' you! Then she moved on to another man and came back to you only when she had troubles with the other man!Don't you see a pattern here OP,she's using you for comfort,for support but when it comes to dating you she isn't 'ready'..don't be a door mat to her OP where she can walk in and out as she likes!Gather your dignity and self respect and shut her off completely!Why do you have to run away?Why do you have to quit a job?You're running like you have done something wrong,you haven't!Stay where you are,continue working..you don't need to hide or run from anyone OP.All you need to do is forget this woman like she was a bad dream and never talk to her again even if she comes back to you after'breaking' up with her current bf. Tell her you've stopped being a door mat years ago! Don't RUN OP its better to face your hurdles,running away is not the solution its just a cowardly way of handling things! Don't be that coward OP!be brave and fight this! Good luck x
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reader, confusoholic  +, writes (24 March 2013):
 Hugs! cheer up!Heartbreak is a painful part of life which most of us have to experience. Very often we expect people to treat us the way we treat them...but then that would be an ideal world...and it is not.If you need to get over her - break off all contact. So delete her from your facebook/chat/phone. Also, don't change your company. She is posted in a different place, right? What are the chances that you will bump into each other? Not too high? If you have a good job and are doing well, don't ruin it - don't let her be the cause of harming your career. Stick on.You should also try to keep yourself busy. Do you exercise? Or gym? Do it! Or write and get it out of your system. And surround yourself with friends who will life your spirits...don't spend too much time alone. In a few months, when you are ready, you'll meet someone new and slowly the pain will go away. Trust me. It will.If you want to cry and let it out - do it (its ok to cry, even if you are a guy).I hope you feel better soon. :)
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reader, Kbomers  +, writes (24 March 2013):
Be the best you can be. If you really want to get her back and improve your onw life, do something new and improve your own life! And great things will follow. Get a new passion!
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