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anonymous
writes:Hi I'm 17 nearly 18 and was on the edge of losing my virginity a few nights ago, but I couldn't get an erection! When there was foreplay, I got one, and even when were just making out and shit. But once we both got naked (first time i've gotten fully naked in front of someone), I just went soft. It wasn't with my 'girlfriend', although I do like her. And she's smoking hot, too! Very attractive. We tried getting it back up, and it did (not to maximum erectness) but when I started putting the condom on, it went soft again.I've done a bit of research, and I'm pretty sure it was nerves and/or performance anxiety.However, what I REALLY want to know is what can I do to prevent this from happening again? Whether it be a mental exercise to put me in the right frame of mind or a physical one. Help!
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reader, ClearEyes +, writes (3 March 2011):
I lost it to my current girlfriend, who was also a virgin at the time. Having the lights off DEFINITELY helped, and I've heard tons of "success" stories from kids who liquor up a little bit before hand. In no way am I encouraging or condoning underage drinking, just saying that 4 shots beforehand will pretty much solve your problem. Too much though and you'll be worse off than when you started,
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2011): Moonknight,
Thanks for your advice! I'm feeling more reassured and less depressed about such a thing happening. I'll try to be more relaxed/confident next time.
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reader, Moonknight  +, writes (28 February 2011):
 There is no secret to the question you are asking, every man is different to how they feel and what works for them, you are struggling to find out what works for you.You need to relax, this is a big step and need to be taken slowly, go back to foreplay if this happens and stop thinking about getting an erection, the more you do the worse it gets.It happens to all men at some point, so take comfort in that and try to relax some more
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