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Need to fix my dating before its too late!

Q.   Hi guys, Just wandered if any of you can help with my dating. I’m 33 and still looking for love. I don’t have much of a social circle anymore so am relying on internet dating, and dates are few and far between. When I do meet, there always see...

A.   1 October 2011: I had a very similar discussion with a friend recently as he seems to be doing similar things with females and ending up in the friends zone. I'm not expert on women nor dating but there is one man i know who is, and that is David Deangelo, i've l... (read in full...)

Do we tell the parents of my son's girlfriend that we walked in on them having oral sex?

Q.   My husband and I walked in on my 17 year old son performing oral sex on his girl friend who is 16. My husband and I disagree on what we should do. I think that we should call her parents and tell them what happened. My husband on the other hand said ...

A.   1 October 2011: No disrespect to you as a parent but i am shocked at the thought you actually think spreading this young girl sexual activity all over the world is the right thing to do, and yes, you will be spreading it all over the world as her world revolves ... (read in full...)

Why am I attracted to someone else when I know I could never love anyone other than my boyfriend?

Q.   Hey. simple situation where I would like an insight on my emotions. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half solid years. We are now living together. We have had our bumps and lows but we have always loved each other dearly. I love him and I...

A.   9 September 2011: You may meet alot of people in your life who you find attractive who you may like or want to get with, you have been with your boyfriend for a good 2 year and you are both comfortable and happy, don't act on any of those feelings of attraction. ... (read in full...)

He said I'm loose down there and now I'm really worried!

Q.   Hey please help me... Ive recently lost my viginity (on holiday with my bf this week) and he is larger than normal. At first he said i was loose however i explained that i have been very experiemental in my past. however after 3 days of sex he...

A.   24 August 2011: Stop worrying your self, it's actually very normal for a guy to feel his gf to be looser after loosing her virginity. that is because you are looser after loosing your virginity, and it takes a few days for your vagina to adapt to the changes, for a ... (read in full...)

Male, 20 and still a virgin

Q.   Just as the title says. I absolutely hate myself for it too. What a loser i must be. Worse, everyone's always telling me how good looking i am and what a good sense of humour i have. So why the HELL cant i make it work for me?? Im a useless failure. ...

A.   24 August 2011: Being a female virgin is not the same as being a male virgin, people have and always will laugh at a male virgin for his inexperience including women! alot of women! The loosing it with someone special thing is... not important, most people ... (read in full...)

Do only pretty girls get married and live well?

Q.   Do you think that only the pretty girls can live well? From what I see, in my place, only the pretty girls can live well, marrying off well. The ugly ones, like me, are meant to live in poor? Any opinions?...

A.   23 August 2011: I think it's foolish not to accept that the whole world is based on looks, but looks alone don't cut it anymore and half of being good looking is about how you feel. Doesn't matter who you are and how good looking you are, if you feel like crap y... (read in full...)

Should I settle with him?

Q.   I recently just left a 10 year relationship to a man I was engaged to. We've had our ups and downs and I think I should have left earlier, I was just too comfortable and scared to do so. We now have this new house that we've both committed to and ...

A.   23 August 2011: I'm very happy to know you found some happiness and comfort after all that, even better, you made us aware of that. Strange how fast a year has gone by, it feels like only a few weeks as i remember your question and my reply very well. You are... (read in full...)

I'm tired of having no bust. Can implants save this situation?

Q.   I really hate my small breasts! I don't know if I should get implants, because men hate implants (supposedly) and because they're risky. But I really can't stand my small breasts anymore. I've been with few guys, but all of them, including my ...

A.   19 June 2011: You are correct in that men don't prefer breast implants over the real deal, that is true. That should be a hint to you that breast implants aren't the right choice. (Apart from the obvious health issues with breast implants, they permanently damage ... (read in full...)

My sister-in-law is too clingy towards my husband. What do I do?

Q.   My question might sound weird, but the situtation that Im in is making me more and more anxious. So me and my husband have been married for a little over two years now. We have two beautiful children(ages 3 and 1)Our marriage itself has been ama...

A.   26 April 2011: You are not going crazy, you have a valid point and a real problem here. What you've described is a mixture of social acceptance and a lot of insecurities Basically to put it simple, she is the woman of the house, YOUR house. It's understandable t... (read in full...)

Has anyone ever kept the truth from their partner and it did not destroy the relationship??

Q.   Is a relationship where you have lied, and cannot get yourself to tell the truth, a relationship worth staying in? Will the guilt of lying and of having betrayed someone you love get to be too much? Cannot confess a truth, but don't know if the ...

A.   28 March 2011: This is a very good question and requires a complex answer. There are many things to take in consideration here, such as circumstances of one's relationship and surroundings, these can make a lie be very normal and not worthy of confessing there... (read in full...)

Girlfriend has started sharing her past with me and I wish she wouldn't!

Q.   Basically I'm insanely jealous about my girlfriend's past sex life. She is my first, and she has had 4 before me. Now, at first I didn't care since I didn't know who those people were and I didn't know any details. I was happy with it staying like ...

A.   6 March 2011: She does sound insensitive but i think there is more to it than that... i think she may be doing this because you were a virgin and possibly she feels like she has one over on you. She surely wouldn't say these things to an awfully experien... (read in full...)

The man whom I had a baby with was never a part of our lives; now we're both married to other people and he suddenly wants to see his daughter after years of no communication

Q.   This is pretty long but please bear with me as I feel you need to know all the details. Six and a half years ago, I started a relationship with a pathetic excuse for a man; we were both 17. Four months in, I found out I was pregnant. He wanted ...

A.   6 March 2011: This all sounds very hard and i am sure the day to day details of this is far more complex than words can say right now, but from what you've said i think you should rethink this a bit. First up, he made it clear he didn't want a child... regardl... (read in full...)

Nothing works to keep me from going too fast

Q.   i premature cum. i tried many many ways of trying to last longer but they all never seem to work for me not thinking about it, thinking some thing unrelated to sex, going slow, etc. and non of them really work. i need help. me and my gf had s...

A.   6 March 2011: I don't think your legally allowed to be having sex at your age young man, however saying that... i am not from your country or aware of the rules specifically in your country so i will just help you out with your question because I don't think ... (read in full...)

Ejaculation places of interest.

Q.   Ejaculation Places of Interest What does it typically mean when: men have a fantasy about cuming on a woman's breasts? Why does my husband suddenly express this same fantasy? After one year of marriage do I have reason for concern? ...

A.   2 March 2011: Porn thing? most of these answers are coming from females, how many of these females have a penis...? yeah exactly. In a marriage of course you've already established some kind of birth control, but when you haven't where is a man mean to blow his... (read in full...)

What do women think of a 28 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend?

Q.   Hey i was just wondering what girls think of a 28 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend (yes, a virgin aswell), do you consider it pathetic? I dunno im a sweet guy, i'd dare say attractive, im just a lil shy, i guess it's true what they say: ...

A.   2 March 2011: Being 28 here i'm sure you've had enough of most females crap in the sense they all want a sweet nice guy and all that then run off with the first bad boy that comes along. So let me try to help you from a mans point of view, who's had such pro... (read in full...)

What's this sex position called?

Q.   I'm seeing a new guy outside the U.S. (just a FWB thing, no relationship) and he showed me the most amazing position the other night (not in terms of ability required, but in terms of how it felt)--He wanted me to lay flat on my stomach, except with ...

A.   28 February 2011: It's called the Turtle, a type of doggy style. Source with 3D animation: http://www.sexinfo101.com/turtle.shtml... (read in full...)

Performance anxiety!! On the verge of losing my virginity and couldn't get an erection!!

Q.   Hi I'm 17 nearly 18 and was on the edge of losing my virginity a few nights ago, but I couldn't get an erection! When there was foreplay, I got one, and even when were just making out and shit. But once we both got naked (first time i've gotten...

A.   28 February 2011: There is no secret to the question you are asking, every man is different to how they feel and what works for them, you are struggling to find out what works for you. You need to relax, this is a big step and need to be taken slowly, go back ... (read in full...)

STDs' possible from oral sex?

Q.   Can you get stds from giving and receiving oral if both of you have never had any kind of sex before? ...

A.   28 February 2011: It is very much possible to get an STD from giving or receiving oral sex, although not all STD's are possible, many still are. People who suffer from gum bleeding diseases such as gingivitis put anyone they have oral sex with at extreme risk of ... (read in full...)

After my girlfriend told me about her sexual past, I am disgusted! Should I have sex with her and leave her, or lose my virginity to another?

Q.   Hi, I have been dating this girl that is crazy in love with me. However, she started talking about her past. She told me that she didn't want anything between us and that she needed to tell me everything, because she trusts me and so on and so forth...

A.   28 February 2011: First of all brother, relax, calm down, take a chill pill, pop a can of coke, and sit back. Listen carefully to everything you've just said from start to finish. Do you see what i see? i see 2 things here. 1. Large amounts of insecurities on... (read in full...)

After watching porn, I feel insecure about my penis size. Is there a way to make it larger?

Q.   Hi, I am 22 years old man. My penis size is 2-3 inches in normal condition and it is 5 inches when erect. I am feeling so shy about my penis after watching porn videos. If I get married, will my wife live happily with me? These are some of ...

A.   28 February 2011: It's not about the size of your fanny wacka, it's how you use it, women find big size penis appealing, but that's all it is, it's like a woman with large breast, sure it's appealing but that doesn't mean if a woman has small breast you wont find her ... (read in full...)

I just want to know if you can or not....

Q.   I am a virgin but my boyfriend has been fingering me a few times. I was wandering if there is any way I can make my vagina hole smaller again???...

A.   28 February 2011: Sorry to say Libra1963 but you are incorrect, untill you've lost your virginity or have had something similar to a penis size inserted in you, your vagina will not recline to it's normal size, because your haven't been stretched to a "normal" point ... (read in full...)

I'm not scared..but I still stop it, why?

Q.   Heey:) I'm 13 and the other day I had a boy round my house, and we were bored so he wanted to play nervous, a game were you touch eachother in certain parts, and he went up my shorts and in my nickers then I stopped him before he could do anything...

A.   28 February 2011: Your mind and body will always react in ways to protect you subconsciously, and this is exactly what is happening to you, you aren't ready for that basically, and although you know this some part of you "don't mind" going forward and even though you ... (read in full...)

Am I not a priority for him?

Q.   My partner of 2 years was transferred to work in another city (far from where I live) by his company 2 months ago. Prior to that we were living together and planning to get married. Lately he has been calling less and less. He said he can't ...

A.   27 February 2011: I know this answer is a bit late but i am hoping it will benefit any other potential readers. Good points made so far with the current answers. Here is a different point of you. You don't make any mention of him being a big drinker when you... (read in full...)

We want to try different kinds of sex!

Q.   im 50years old and my gjrlfriend js 28, we have good sex, we want to try diffrent kinds of sex,i love my girl so i will do anything to keep her happy,any helpfull hjnts wood be great...

A.   25 February 2011: For sex positions and demonstration there is this website that i found to be absolutely great. http://www.sexinfo101.com/ It has all kind of information about sex from STD's to every mostly known sex position, you will find some of these po... (read in full...)

I need to move on, he's got a girlfriend and just wants to sleep with me

Q.   I feel so pathetic asking for help but this is my last resort. I think what happened last night was the straw that broke the camels back, so to speak. I'm going to try and cut this very long story short. I met up with a guy who i hadn't seen for ...

A.   22 February 2011: It's not pathetic asking for help, asking for help is saying that you don't want to make stupid mistakes and simply want to know how to avoid it. Your feeling used and i understand that, you thought there was something to it when there wasn't, ... (read in full...)

When do you know that you've lost someone for good?

Q.   Hello everyone, I would like to know your opinions about something. I can accept an honest answer, but I really need answers. I would like to know when it's absolutely certain that you have NO chance with someone, ever- in other words, w...

A.   22 February 2011: Unless the person is dead, there is nothing for sure that can say you've lost someone, things can change over time, and if you put enough time and effort into someone you could get them back. During the period of this journey of trying to get that... (read in full...)

Help!!! Where IS the G-spot???

Q.   Hi I'm just wandering if it's possible for a womans g spot to be literally JUST inside the entrance to the vagina. When I have read about it before it's always described as being 3 to 4 inches in. The only part of my vagina that feels different and ...

A.   21 February 2011: The g spot position varies greatly on all females in shape size and feel, I have always found the g spot on females to be 2-3 inches in rather than 3-4 inches. Answer to your question is yes it can be that near in. The best way to truely fi... (read in full...)

How often do girls check out guys packages?

Q.   How often do girls check out guys packages? I know guys are always looking at cleavage and bootys, but I want to know how often chicks check out a mans package. I sometimes feel chicks are checking out me package as I walk by....

A.   18 February 2011: External visual package view says nothing about a man. most women knows this. The whole appeal of a guy with a big bulge is strong though and something to give the ladies a bit of chitter, But really means nothing as the actual size of the package ... (read in full...)

Ashamed at being a 20 year old virgin...

Q.   I am 20 years old and a virgin. I have never had a long term relationship and the people i have been with have cheated and treated me very badly. Im not the type to have a one night stand and the fact i was still a virgin never use to bother me as i ...

A.   18 February 2011: As a female you really should not be worried about being a virgin, no one can actually tell that you are a virgin unless you tell them, there is nothing to be ashamed about being a virgin, take serious pride in it. it says alot about your character ... (read in full...)

I`m doing all the legwork and she contributes little

Q.   I'm in a long distance relationship. 700kms between us, and we've been together for over a year now. In that time, I've visited my girlfriend nine times. I've always done all of the travelling. I have flown, caught buses, trains and driven long ...

A.   7 February 2011: I think her comfort zone is exactly how she likes it and don't want to change that. If she'd rather end the relationship than gathering enough courage to travel and see you, then she might not be the girl for you...... (read in full...)

Is this problem age-related?

Q.   when haveing sex with wife i cant cum sometime. i am 54 does this happen with age...

A.   3 January 2011: To answer your question, no it is not age related, this can happen to men of any age... (read in full...)

Son's medical condition goes untreated by his father and father's family

Q.   I am a single mum no bf with a young son who is ADHD and autistic, and I have full custody and am not involved at all with his dad. My son's dad and his family are really p***ing me off :(. This New Yr I want to change things and think I need to ...

A.   3 January 2011: It's not easy to say go through the court process, however sucking it up is not an option, there are limits to how much shit one can suck up, and i think you've hit your limit... In order for change to happen everything/one must be shuffled... (read in full...)

Why look at me, when you could look at someone prettier?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years. He and I are honest about everything and are open about many things. I have asked him over and over if he looks and other women. But he says he doesn't look at other girls. I don't think I ...

A.   31 December 2010: When a man has true feelings for a woman, his ability to notice other women lowers dramatically. Take his word for it, or you will turn him away. It's not just about looks some people are more responsible than others, same thing with relationshi... (read in full...)

Confused about my sexuality and three some

Q.   i have been married to my husband for 5 years and been in a relationship with him for almost 10 years.Our relatonship is great but lately I have been having dreams about a threesome and the thought of it really turns me on.surprizingly i fantasize ...

A.   22 December 2010: That is a very good way to destroy a relationship... by bringing someone else into it, i would highly suggest not to engage in such things when you have a healthy relationship. However saying that... you and your husband have made it to 5 years ma... (read in full...)

Is it normal for a boyfriend to want to wait to have sex?

Q.   i have been with my boyfriend for a year and i am 16 in the uk he is recently turned 24. i love him etc.I think that this bit is great i asked him if he was ready or if he wanted to have sex /do the deed what ever ..and he said that he didnt wa...

A.   22 November 2010: Sorry CindyCares, but you are incorrect, there is no law stating "The age of consent is 16 in Uk .However it is illegal for a person over 18 to engage in sexual activity with an individual under the age of 18 unless between them there is an age ... (read in full...)

Sex 2-3X a day? I can't keep up!

Q.   hi, my girlfriend is a very sexual person, but honestly i cant keep up sometimes, i am not lying when i say we have sex 2-3 times a day and see each other 5-6 times a week and sometimes she wants them 5 minute periods in between and there are time...

A.   16 October 2010: Why can you not keep up? if you are really struggling then try using sex toys on her. Vibrators work well, not much work to be done on your part and can be used in and out sex to drag things out while still pleasing her, i think you should g... (read in full...)

Men like girls who are bald?

Q.   I've always shaved down there. I can't always get the hair completely bald off of the lip area though, so there is always hair though. I recently got in a relationship, and I am kind of worried that the guy might be turned off by a bit of the hair. ...

A.   16 October 2010: Air makes no difference, what level of hair you have makes no difference what so ever. Men are not concerned about "oh wow she's so hairy" the truth is men like something a little different, and get excited by it, being always shaved can become m... (read in full...)

Should I dump the girl I love to go for a hotter girl?

Q.   Hi I am currently in a relationship with someone I love. My friends say she is gross and ugly. A "hotter" girl likes me but I don't like her. Should I dump my current gf and go for the other one?...

A.   15 October 2010: Yeah do it, the choices you make today creates the man you are tomorrow, you will learn from it regardless of what you do. Of course asking a question like this clearly says you don't actually love her and infact you have no idea what love is,... (read in full...)

Advice desperately needed on how to lift myself up and begin again??

Q.   I am in desperate need of some help, answers, something. I feel as if I am loosing my spirit if not entirely lost already. I have lost everything car, Home, spouse, career. and have ended up on the couch of my family. which is awful considering as a ...

A.   14 October 2010: This man is a mad man, for a dying man he sure is clingy. He sounds a bit like my mother's ex, who would give her something then later take it back, like a phone and act really stupid, he was on drugs and that explained his odd behaviour. You k... (read in full...)

How is it with medical practioners?

Q.   I know they don't get emotionally involved with their patients.But in my experience there are a few who really are compassionate and loving and are very sincere with their patients and their familes. I though I had met one like that whom I emailed,...

A.   12 October 2010: He is a professional, do not expect him to be texting you on a personal level for any other reason than a medical importants. Now that you are no longer his patient you shouldn't be taking things so personal that he has stopped texting you and ... (read in full...)

Advice desperately needed on how to lift myself up and begin again??

Q.   I am in desperate need of some help, answers, something. I feel as if I am loosing my spirit if not entirely lost already. I have lost everything car, Home, spouse, career. and have ended up on the couch of my family. which is awful considering as a ...

A.   6 October 2010: I honestly don't think you should keep it purely because as you said, it keeps you at his mercy, and you are trying to get away from exactly this. However in reality a car offers alot of flexability, being mobile is importand and having a car makes ... (read in full...)

Advice desperately needed on how to lift myself up and begin again??

Q.   I am in desperate need of some help, answers, something. I feel as if I am loosing my spirit if not entirely lost already. I have lost everything car, Home, spouse, career. and have ended up on the couch of my family. which is awful considering as a ...

A.   5 October 2010: :- ) glad to hear some good news... (read in full...)

Advice desperately needed on how to lift myself up and begin again??

Q.   I am in desperate need of some help, answers, something. I feel as if I am loosing my spirit if not entirely lost already. I have lost everything car, Home, spouse, career. and have ended up on the couch of my family. which is awful considering as a ...

A.   3 October 2010: Very hard to say anything that could help you not knowing where how it all ended. I feel for you :- ( this is not nice at all, what happened to your career? because your first step would be to find a new job and get somekind of income, without ... (read in full...)

Should I settle with him?

Q.   I recently just left a 10 year relationship to a man I was engaged to. We've had our ups and downs and I think I should have left earlier, I was just too comfortable and scared to do so. We now have this new house that we've both committed to and ...

A.   6 September 2010: A friend once told me the story of alice in wonderland, so i'm going to tell you the same thing, why? because it helps alot when you truely understand what this specific part of the story means. Alice stands at a crossroads and asks the cat whic... (read in full...)

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