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writes:Most people think I'm dating my bisexual best friend. It's not the case. It's true that we're very close and for instance, when we go out we hold hands or hug a lot, but that's how are friendship has grown. I don't want to change the way I act around him (he's made me a better person, more receptive to affection from those around me), but I'm single and looking and I don't want to give the wrong impression that I'm unavailable. He's also looking for a male partner, so I guess in a way we're both getting each other's way...
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 April 2012):
 Yeah: if you don't want to give the impression you're not available, then don't act as boyfriend and girlfriend.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 April 2012):
 Like already said, stop acting like his gf when you are with him. Even if that is how your friendship has turned out, it is keeping you from appearing single, and probably keeping other guys away.
When I went on holiday with my brother everyone thought he was my boyfriend, even though we never did anything like hug or hold hands... People just assumed because it is so rare for brothers and sisters to go on holiday together apparently. Anyway, just make it clear you are not dating, by for example stating it, or flirting with other guys. Or stop acting so intimate and friendly with him when there is a guy around that you like.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 April 2012):
 stop looking like a GF when you are with him....
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): Don't worry about it. As person12345 says just don't bring him along when you're on the hunt. Although you can be his wingwoman when he goes on the hunt in gay bars etc. as he can approach any guy he likes.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (10 April 2012):
 I'd guess it's probably the hand holding that's doing it. If you're out looking for guys, you should go without him and definitely don't hug or show physical affection around guys you're interested in. Same goes when he's out looking for guys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): If your friend is bisexual maybe you can find a guy that's attracted to you both. In that way you can continue your friendship but share that intimacy with another too.
These kind of relationships are becoming more common.
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