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writes:After 2 years and 8 months, she's left me. I thought we were doing so well. We'd both gone to seperate universities, but our conversation seemed to be the same as ever, and I was happy. Now it's over.I don't think there's anything more I could have done. In the end, I was the one left wanting the relationship, and she didn't. My friends and family have told me that it's "her loss" more so than mine, but it really doesn't feel like it. I feel like a loser. I couldn't even keep the girl I loved happy.Is this REALLY her loss?? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 I don't know the whole story here but it seems she might have decided she just wasn't ready to be with you. She left the relationsip when it was convienent to her needs for whatever her reason. Please try to accept her decision and in time if it was meant to be she will return. If at that time you still feel the same way you can take it from there. If not you will have moved on to what is more convienent to you!
It doesn't mean you are a looser it means that maybe at the time it wasn't right for the both of you. In a relationship no matter how well two people get along it doesn't necessarily mean that they are meant to be together as a couple.
Open those eyes of yours and take a look around you. She isn't the only girl in the universe. *Smiles* Next time take a bit longer to let go of the heart and give it a change to find something real the next go around.
Best wishes and let your faith in God and yourself see you thru.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): dont worry if its her loss or not.. not the point. you lost the girl you love. and you cant justify it. this will make you feel like the 'underdog/loser'.... but the thing is that its happened and you need to stop replaying it and trying make ends meet.. IT IS HER LOSS!! she lost you so you should pick up your head and walk away with pride and go find someone who deserves you.
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reader, electronica +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Hello there,
I totall know what it feels like to be dumpt. You are left alone without knowing what u have done wrong.
Don't ever think it's ur fault, or u are a loser... No matter what u would have done, this relationship wasn't meant to work. She probably thought it was best being with someone at her university who is closer. You should probably do the same. Take ur time to know and love yourself. Indulge urself. And when u meet the person who you'll be happy just because u ar aeround, you'll know you met the right one for u!
Good luck!
Electronica
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (23 October 2007):
 Honey ... the only one you can make happy is yourself, and even that is a tough task sometimes. In the best relationship, each person makes themselves happy and relationship that two people create enriches it all.
Losing in love does not make one a loser. You hurt but you will heal. You'll be a deeper, richer person and I know this all sounds like a load of poopy, but you'll see it down the road.
Allow yourself some alone time to feel and think. Make time with those that appreciate who you are. Best wishes.
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