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writes:Hi, this question's to the ladies. Imagine you were out on your second date and the guy wanted to kiss u. Would u prefer it if he looked into your eyes and asked "would u mind if i kissed u?" and kissed u only if u said 'yes' or would u prefer it if he just picked his moment and just went in for the kiss confidently? I'm looking to see what the majority of girls prefer so a lot of replies would be really good! Thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): The best way to kiss a girl for the first time is to say "Would you like to kiss me"If she says yes, or maybe, then kiss her.If she says not here, or later, then say "I understand" then take her some place else (probably away from her friends) and kiss her.If she says "no" then playfully say "well i saying you could"Girls are usually ready to be kissed when they are showing multiple indiciation of interests (IOIS) including: touching you and enjoy being touched (touched NON sexually) playing with hair, smiling, laughing and showing open body language.
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reader, dr.2.be  +, writes (31 October 2009):
 I would like him to ask me.....but in a silent way. That is how it was when my boyfriend kissed me the first time. We actually finished studying together and when he walked me to my car and gave me a hug. Then while we were still holding onto each other we looked into each other's eyes and our lips slowly made contact. It was really romantic.....even though it was in the school parking garage!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the replies. They were all very helpful. Thanks also for the wishes. I've decided to make sure she seems comfortable around me, pick a good setting, and just go in for the kiss without asking because that seems to be the general consensus. Best of luck with all your relationships :)
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reader, hannahgolightly  +, writes (31 October 2009):
 Hello,
I prefer not to be asked with words. Questions like that should be asked with the eyes! I like it when the guy looks deep into my eyes and then glances at my lips and back into my eyes... I prefer it when a guy comes very close so you know he wants to kiss you, then you come even closer, then he leans in and kisses you. That way, you can back out if you don't wanna kiss him and he can tell from how you react that you want him to kiss you. It's nice if he touches your hair or face when doing it.
Happy kissing!
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reader, peppie +, writes (31 October 2009):
i would rather not be asked. If i allowed him close enough into my personal space to kiss me it seems a little idiotic and inexperienced to ask. I think you can (or should) be able to tell if someone is comfortable enough with you to be kissed.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (31 October 2009):
 What if he has bad hygiene? I would be so grossed out.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (30 October 2009):
 Actually I just remembered of a funny story my friend told me when she was dating a classmate of ours. They had been flirting for weeks and at the end of official date number three, when she was saying good-bye to him and had already stepped foot on the bus, he kissed her smiled and walked off. She was stunned. She was left standing there for a minute. She turned around and looked at the driver and looked at the money in her hand and then back to the driver and asked "where am I going again?" She totally forgot where she was going!
She then texted him saying "Bastard! You made me forget where I was going!" and his reply was "Good. You looked like you needed kissing."
Sadly they aren't together anymore, still friends, but she always remembers that moment very fondly.
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reader, girlly-girl +, writes (30 October 2009):
personaly i would prefer no to e asked. think itwoul be much more romantic if there are signs that im gona be kissed nd then it happens insead of being asked, i wuld find asing a bit cringy but ats just me
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reader, babymama99 +, writes (30 October 2009):
 Just set the mood and do it. I don't need a bunch of chatter. I think the element of suprise is better, its like - I think he's gonna kiss me, I think he's gonna kiss me. Yea, we're kissing!!
For me if you ask me and then I have to reply its more like yeah go ahead, instead of ahh he's so sweet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2009): from experience i would prefer a guy to go for it. it ruins the moment if you ask. i follow the saying 'go on son..get in there!'
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2009): Just be kissed
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2009): ask me but thats just my preference i happen to think its more romantic that way ,x
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reader, Miss Karma Louise +, writes (30 October 2009):
i would much prefer he asked,becuase your also doing her a favour your not only answering a few of her many wonders about you but your also proving you like her.
just mention on how beautifull she looks and add a little cheekkyness perhaps? say you look so beautifull,i habe to kiss you,that way it'll maybe take the awkwardness away from you too.
ohhh :)
good luck mr x
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reader, HonningKanin +, writes (30 October 2009):
Oh that is wholely up to preference. There is no right answer and you have to be comfortable lol. Things that also add to that sort of decision is whether or not you are really into the guy, if the mood was right and location, location, location.
Personally if all the lights were green, chemistry was good and the tension high... JUST KISS ME ALREADY, DAMN IT!!
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