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writes:Hi all, my first post here, and I need some advise. I've been dating this girl for some number of years now. We've had our good times and our bad times like any couple, but now I don't really feel like she is the one.We've had proplems before, but always worked them out. Well our proplem now is, anytime I try to give her a hug or kiss, she acts disgusted and backs away. It really hurts coming from your girlfriend. We recently moved into a house together, and honestly, we don't spend a lot of time together. Anytime I suggest watching a movie or something together, she blows me off and says that's boring, and stays glued to her computer screen the whole time she is home, so I just go to my little office and leav her alone.The only time she comes around is when she wants something like money or me to take her to the grocery store.I just don't feel appreciated anymore, and I'm really thinking about just moving out, and moving on with my life.Oh and on top of all of that, we have sex maybe once a month if I'm lucky, and even then I have to start it. I also have found that instead of having sex, she will get online and look at porn, when I'm left out wondering why I'm not good enough.Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): My sister and her boyfriend went through the same thing!!! I remember when she was very touchie and stuff around her bf and she just completely stopped when moving in together. I have never had this issue but from what my sister told me is that maybe you should give her space. Don't move out! If you and your gf can work through hard times before then you can work through this one. Try giving her the same cold shoulder. then you will know for shure if she cares or not and that will determine if you should move out or not. Don't change who you are, but try to do things nice for her to remind her what it was like when you started dating.For the sex life all women can relate to your gf. Try spicing things up a bit. do something different. Or let her be the dominate one.Try watching things she likes!!!! All relationships aint going to be like they used to be in the beginning, sparks die in every relationship. u just have to figure out how to bring it back!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): You need to really talk to her about how she feels for you. Maybe she doesnt realise she is being so cold against you and thinks its normal. If she doesnt change or can't answer then break the cord and leave her, you deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): I can relate. I was with a girl for 3 years and I just always had this nagging feeling that she was not THE ONE. I loved her more than I've ever loved another woman. I even bought an engagement ring, which I kept hidden from her for a year and never presented to her. She liked to hug, but she would never kiss anymore and sex became rare - more rare than for you. Two big differences: 1. She did not look at porn ever.2. We spent almost every waking moment together.In that respect, I think I had it better than you even though you are getting laid more often. In the end, I felt she just wasn't right for me and when I told her so I expected a big emotional display, but - while she cried - it was less than I expected. My advice: move out. Don't break up with her, but tell her you are not happy and you are moving out. Don't give her any money either. Tell her you need to clear your head. (Make it all about you.) See how she reacts. I won't say she's not the girl for you, but she needs a serious wake up call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): dude wtf!!! seriously.. how could you move in together with a girl who is disgusted of you???? or did it start only after you moved in with her? if she started acting strange only after moving in with you may be she is not having a great time like she had expected it to be, may be she is confused if that is what she wants to do. you have to talk to her and find out the root of the problem. great relations are based on good communications so the two of you have to sit down and sort out your problems. discuss what has happened to her what she wants. there is no point in wasting eachothers time if the two of you are not interestd in each other any more.
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