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writes: i'm 19 and have a one year old son. I broke up with my partner last year in December as he was violent. Although we were'nt together we continued to have sex. But unknown to him i have slept with other men. Now i have just found out i am pregnant with my second child. Me and my ex got back together and he thinks this baby is his. I hope it is him but i'm not sure, what should i do?
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reader, uonlyliveonce  +, writes (18 August 2006):
 you have two options you either keep playing happy families and let him believe th childs his, what he doesnt no wont hurt him
or you can tell him the truth and get a dna test to be honest if he was violent you may be better off without him anyway. and do you think he would be violent towards you when you tell him it might not be his child??
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (15 August 2006):
 Personally, I think you should just tell him the truth. If it were me I would want to know. He will be upset but you said you had broken up for a minute and you slept with other men. He probably slept with other women. He will be hurt but he will be more so if you tell him later rather than sooner. Have a DNA test and find out the truth for the child's sake.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (15 August 2006):
 You could get a paternity test.
Your partner probably doesn't even need to know, that is, if the first child is his. If the first child is his, a clinic can probably tell you if both your children have the same father. But if your partner isn't the father of your first child, then you'll need some of your partners DNA. Not so easy without him finding out. A doctor will be able to give you more information about this.
I don't know how much it will cost however :(
Once you know if it is his or not, you can decide what to do with the information.
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