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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I feel so lonely , im going to b 30 next yr and well ive only got my little girl shes the best thing I have, and even her dad left ume before she was even born. I met someone else but he has since last yr been working away and I think hes with someone else as hardley see him and have seen his new fbsaying in a relationship with this girl now even tho he wont even admit it to me.He says hes looking for jobs where I live but never seems to happenI really dont no what to do, all my friends are in strong relationships ad planning me children then theres me the loney one who no body loves I dont ever think I cam meet someone because I have no one to look after my daughter so cant go out. And well I fee really ugly that no one wants me What can u do to stop feel like this im always thinking about y friends how happy they r im always board with hardley any money to do things
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reader, malvern + ♥, writes (7 May 2014):
 Before I read the other answers to your question I thought to myself 'this young lady needs to join some sort of toddler or childrens group'. Then I read the other answers and they say just the same.
You need to meet other females with children in the same age bracket as yours then you can slowly build up a social life. Take it all one step at a time and before you know it life will start to improve. Getting involved as a helper at your childs toddler group, or school, will also introduce you to others.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 May 2014):
 Do you have anything like Parents without Partners?
http://www.parentswithoutpartners.org/
it was a godsend for me when I was newly separated with 2 small children... while there are events for just adults many events are for the parents AND the children... I met many great friends there... and my BFF met her current husband through PWP....
We did things together with our kids... skating, outings... etc... all single parents... all understanding your lack of time and money to be out and about without your child and all accepting that you have a child who is important in your life.
you can make great girlfriends and maybe even meet a guy.
once you make girlfriends, you can trade babysitting with each other should you have a date or something.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (7 May 2014):
 You don't say how old your little girl is or where the father is?
I take it the father or your family are not around to support you and see your daughter, thereby giving you some me time, so you have to start mingling in the day.
If your daughter is tiny then join mother-toddler groups, meet other mums and make new friends, form a babysitting circle.
If she is at school then there are bound to be mums in your situation,chat to them. If you don't work, then look for a part-time job, or go to college and train for a new career.
As soon as you start doing things for yourself and your future you will feel more positive and believe in yourself.Your daughter wants a happy mum and when your happy and confident you attract people to you.
Your doing the hardest job now and raising a child alone so don't knock yourself, as for this man, yes, forget him.
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