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My wife's workouts are getting out of control

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Question - (23 November 2019) 6 Answers - (Newest, 24 November 2019)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My wife wanted to lose some weight for upcoming vacation so I encouraged her to get a trainer. A friend of hers recommend a 'gay' guy (Joe) she knew that worked out of his house at nights.

Once I found out he was gay, I begged her to wear her shiny tights and leotards I had bought on ebay for workouts around the house; these always got me super horny. It was a great set up at first, she'd always come home horny and we'd make love.

After a few sessions, she started wearing tighter more revealing leotards and admitted that Joe would wear lycra shorts during their sessions always had a huge bulge; I know this is what made her horny and she couldn't stop talking about him. She assured me nothing ever happened but last week I found condoms in her gym bag and our hot dates after her workout have turned into her cock teasing me until I cum.

I'm really not sure how to approach this, I really don't think shes sleeping with him but isn't cock teasing another guy cheating too? Advice please

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2019):

What sort of marriage do you have OP, that you have not confronted your wife directly, and asked her why she has condoms in her gym bag? I mean what are you doing, going thru your wifes gym bag anyway? What do you do, sniff her wet tights? Do you realise how juvenile that behavior is OP? My little brother did that junk with my sisters and my own thongs, when he was like 14yrs old. It ended pretty damn quick too, when we told Mom and she told Daddy! Foolishly, you sent your one and only to unmercifully tease a gay trainer. That gentleman may be bi sexual. Also he could have other clients who are bi or straight, that your wife may have gotten to know. You are playing a very risky game sir. I married the Love of my life, a straight man, but the most intense sex that I have ever had, was back in Uni, with a very hung, bi sexual FWB who gave me REAL workouts! Ask yourself, do you truly love your wife, or do you just have a creepy nylon fetish?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2019):

You introduced something into your marriage, encouraged role-play; and now you think you've created a monster.

Joe is gay! There is no threat, but workouts increase oxygen to the brain. With increased energy and blood-flow comes a more vibrant libido! Workouts lift your energy-levels, improves self-esteem; and your wife is enjoying the benefits of fantasy and a turned-on husband.

All good things come to an end. If the fun is gone, then impart your feelings to your wife.

You can join a gym together, and still enjoy the hormone-surges; or you can confess you're jealous of Bulgy-Joe! Who is inadvertently improving your lovelife as an unintended side-effect.

If you found condoms in your wife's gym-bag, don't blame that on Joe! There maybe an unidentified-player in your fantasy-game! That, or she knew raising suspicion and jealousy would add some spice and intrigue! I do hope that is the case!

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A male reader, Billy Bathgate United States +, writes (23 November 2019):

You have got to be kidding? You found condoms in her bag but you don’t think she’s done anything with her “gay” trainer? Well she’s using them somewhere sport. But my guess is this guy isn’t as gay as your wife and her friend are letting on.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (23 November 2019):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntSorry, but you literally asked for this doubt because you wanted her to be sexier and turned on around this guy, but now you feel teased.

Get a gym membership each and go together. The condoms could be for you to use when she gets back with her bag - I’m sure the guy has plenty of his own condoms at his house, if they needed it.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (23 November 2019):

Honeypie agony auntJust buy a gym membership.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (23 November 2019):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntWell, you really ARE getting your just desserts, aren't you? You thought it was fair game to tease this guy because he is gay (have you considered that, just perhaps, he is not?) but now that your wife has turned the tables and is teasing you, it is no longer ok.

Few people (if any) are 100% gay or straight. Perhaps your wife has drawn out the heterosexual side of this man? What other reason would she carry condoms in her gym bag?

Treat others as you would like to be treated, my friend. You DESERVE to be puzzled and insecure. You need to stop your wife's sessions with this guy and reconnect with her on an intimate level instead of using her as tease material for someone you think is gay.

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