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My wife cheated on me before we got married.should I divorce her?

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Question - (21 July 2010) 8 Answers - (Newest, 27 July 2010)
A male Zambia age 26-29, anonymous writes:

hello there. I have a big problem that i need help to, amy wife cheated on me before we where married. We have being married 5 years, we never had sex before we got married, she was my first and i though i was hers. We have a 2yr old boy.i found out from the guy she slept with we where at a bar and discusing our wives the discusion drifted to our wives sexual partners and proudly i said we where each orthers first, the guy who slept with my wife just laughed and said hows ma wifes birth mark on her right butt cheek, am 5'8 but i took down that 6'4 guy like i was mad literaly, spent 2 days for assault in jail. I dnt know what to do my said she slept with the guy a total of six times.we dated for 3 years en she slept with him six times. She hasnt cheated since we got married, i asked her why she cheated she wanted to have another man to compare. She regrets it. I want a divorce

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010):

Your wife is feeding you bull dust when she lied , only 6 times- is a lie. I think she has been cheating on you during your marriage as well. Without making you paranoid are you sure your kid is yours. Kick your so called saintly wife out of your life. You deserve so much better and believe me there are good decent woman who will gladly welcome you into their lives. Your wife is a liar, a cheater and she has no respect for you. You were humiliated by her lover and you were made a foiol of in front of your friends. Get rid of her now. And do not believe anything she says. Also go get a check up, you do not knoiw what fleas she is carrying. Time to get rid of her NOW.

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A male reader, Serpico United States +, writes (23 July 2010):

If you think thats the only cheating shes done I have some swampland in florida to sell you.....

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A male reader, dyeruz United Kingdom +, writes (22 July 2010):

Divorce her now, you thought you had something sacred and spiritual and it was a lie. And she didn't confess she got caught, plus she also compared six times which means whatever she wanted to compare she must have been really thorough.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010):

I would want a divorce. She intentionally deceived you into believing you were her first when she was cheating. I think the fact that she tried to fool you is reason enough to end the marriage if you want. If she could look you in the eyes for 5 years and lie about this, who knows what else she is lying about.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom + , writes (21 July 2010):

I have to say, to cheat because she wanted someone to compare to was pretty low.

I would say that for the sake of your son, it might be worth trying to fix this through counselling. So maybe think about that before you get that divorce. Clearly though if you can't get over it, then you'd be better getting a divorce and being a great Dad. But, for the sake of your young son, it might be worth just trying to fix it.

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A male reader, lowercaseq United States +, writes (21 July 2010):

lowercaseq agony auntI really feel bad for you my friend. I really do . it was ignorant of her and to do it so many times. I dont blame you for taking out your anger on the man . I would get a divorce . or separate for a while and shell know that is 100% of the reason why you are. she can say she is sorry all she wants but she should have known the consequences before she had done any of it . I wish you all the best

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (21 July 2010):

raiders agony auntIf you can't let it go than you should go for it. An affair is a deal breaker in many marriage. Only you know if you can or cannot forgive her.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010):

I don't blame you. I would want a divorce too.

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