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writes: I can’t control my anger toward my husband and don’t know what to do.When I get angry, I am unable to control my temper, I talk continuously and hurt my husband’s feelings and abuse him a lot verbally. The argument continues until my husband gets real mad and go into silence. He is a passive agressive.. . When I am calm, I am the best wife and mother. I get irritated if he ignores me or ,not showing any affection. He is not having sex with me long time ago now. I get provoked very easily. I feel insecure and upset when he is working 24 \7. I feel sorry for hurting him so much. Everybody says I am nagging him and I am making his life miserable. I can’t live without him, I want to be happy and make him happy. I am unable to overcome my temper and forget the past. When we had some rocky start ,with lots of hard to handle emotions. Dislike of his parents. They never excepted me.. I feel he hates me because of my behavior. when I nag him and doesn’t believe me even if i speak nicely to him. There is no peace in our family. The children are fed up seeing all this. . I understand that I am into depression some times,but as I am alone with m y problems, . it is natural . He is avoiding to deal with our troubled son,on drugs,and works all the time to hide. I feel hopeless . Please help me to overcome this issue. I want lead a peaceful life. Please suggest to me where I am wrong . Waiting for an reply.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 I see a vicious cycle. Life is stressful, we take out your stress onto love ones, kids get affected and do stupid things, parents feel failure, dad overworks, mom feels neglected, mom complains, dad withdraws, mom's angry again, then kids are affected again. No one is learning how to deal. You are not being a positive model to handle stress and life's frustration in front of your children. Everybody is learning to escape from pain. It doesn't go away and it creeps back in when we can't hold it back anymore. I would suggest you go to a meditation group and enjoy the peaceful, soothing environment there. Calmly talk to your husband, ask him to acknowledge the problem at home and ask him to suggest something that would make a small change, just for one night. When I can't think of anything that is fun (I live in a place where nothing is really fun), then I enjoy good food and a nice walk in nature. Turn your anger energy into making different kinds of exotic food. The way to a man's heart is through is stomach so this can't fail. Use good food to lure him back in from his work. Get him a card from Hallmark telling him you love him and you really want to make it work.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (21 July 2010):
 Look into getting yourself some help in form of Anger Management and/or some therapy.
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