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writes:Im a virgin and so in love with this girl who is also a virgin,recently i talked to her about having sex but she wont give in,she belives in no sex before marriage and it rilly bothers me coz she is only 16years.she lets me touch her private parts now and again nd and it rily turns me on.i thought talking to her about having sex wil make her know how i feel.its been a year what should i do for her to compromise Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): if you love her, respect her beliefs and back off! stop touching her because it will make it harder for her to keep true to what is right and it will make it harder for you to leave the sex issue alone
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 you need to back off and stop pressuring her. let her see that you love her and she may change her mind down the track if you prove to be worthy of her.dont wory to much about the age difference, but dont let that be a factor in yours and her sex life.let her find sex at her own pace, she has already shown shes happy to share her body, be cool and show her she can trust you.
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reader, Bee4ever  +, writes (18 September 2010):
Her first experience will be memorable and forcing her to have sex before she's married will carry with her for the rest of her life. It will affect every relationship if you force her. If you truly love her you will wait until she is ready. She has already compromised enough. I don't see this as working out well. You are dating a child who has told you that she wants to wait. Are you prepared to marry her? Is she the one? There are plenty of women who will sleep with guys if you cannot wait. I think you either need to break things off and bother another gal for sex or respect the girl you have.
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reader, Battista  +, writes (18 September 2010):
She has already made compromises by letting you touch her. Can you not see that?
Having sex with you is not her making a compromise, it is you getting things the way you want. She will always regret it, and, from how you come across here, the rightly so as well. You just seem to want sex, but are not interested in her feelings whatsoever.
Beyond this, you are far too old for her. She is young; you are an adult. The fact that you are reduced to finding girls with whom it is only just legal to have sex implies that you need to take a step back and look at yourself and your motivation. Leave her alone and find someone your own age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): I agree. Why should she have to 'compromise'? I would have thought 'letting you' (or feeling pressurised into...?) touch her would be compromise enough. But no, that's not enough, you just want sex.
Do her a favour and let her go. She deserves someone who will respect her wishes.
If you're in love with her as much as you say you are, then why don't you marry her? Oh yes, that's why, you men are all the same: you want the sex, but you don't want the commitment that should come with it. This girl has admirable principles. Leave her alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): Ok now if this girl belives in no sex before marrige respects what she belives. If you love is true then you will stay together. You never know she might not want to have sex because she dianthus know you are the right guy but further on in the relationship she might warm up. This is a really big desion and you have to respect what she belives
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (18 September 2010):
 What could possibly a man aged 22-25 want from a 16 y/o girl? Don't tell me you love her for what she is, because she's a child, she doesn't know what real love is, so aside sex, she can't offer you too much. If she wants to stay virgin until wedding, it's HER choice and you are not supposed to pressure her into anything.
Once you have sex with her, you'll probably use her just to get laid. Instead of thinking about "how can I make her have sex with me", you should find other ways to fill your time together - go to a movie, hang out, have fun together. I know she probably turns you on, but this is the trusting and love test in a relationship. Too bad some people fail at it.
And there's also the possibility to met other people, nobody says you have to stay with her forever, so if you really want sex, you can break up with her and find yourself a real woman. Leave that kid alone, she needs to focus on her school stuff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): Leave her alone, she made it clear that she will not give up her virginity before marriage. If you force her against her will it is rape. If you force her into agreeing to it, it is pure evil.
Getting pussy is rather easy if you approach it the right way - but not if you are picky. Go to a club/bar or join one of those adult websites... choose the first person who offers it to you. "Use" her as your lab rat.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (18 September 2010):
You're between 22 and 25 years of age and yet this gibberish you've written looks like what a 13 y/o cooks up on AIM.
What are you doing with a girl who is atleast 6 years younger than you? Can't find someone of your own age? Or maybe it's because you don't want to act like the adult you're supposed to be? She doesn't want to have sex yet. End of story. No compromise. God forbid a woman has principles.
Go find someone else who will do the dirty. Plenty of hookers and sluts out there to choose from. If you can't respect this girl's wishes you don't deserve her and you should leave her alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): Don't make her compromise, she only wants sex after marriage so don't push her that would be evil.
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reader, bartmaverick +, writes (18 September 2010):
 What is the age of consent in your country?
At your age (22-25 in the title), you should not be pressuring a 16-year-old, legal or not.
Bart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): She's 16... give her a break man.
If you are that desperate for sex, then dump her and let her find someone who actually knows how to grow the fuck up.
Flynn 24
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