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writes:hi. i use to go out with a boy on/off for two years, i loved him so much, he was my first love...he use to lie and cheat and make me feel small infront of people, i knew deep down he didnt love me, he only wanted me when he felt like it. a year on i let go of him, it took me a year to get over him, although it was hard and painful to the point where i never left the house, stop seeing my friends, i even shut out all the people i love. im over that now and i hate him. now im with a really nice fella, been in a serious relationship with him for ten months now, he says im his first love and that im all that matters to him, he treats me like a princess, but sometimes i feel like i cant trust him, i know im wrong for not trusting him at times, his bestfriends who he has known all his life have already told me hes the most loyal person you could ever meet and that he would never cheat, but because of my ex, i seem to think everyone is like him no matter how hard i try. i know im pushing my boyfriend away because i have accused him of cheating twice now, he said i have to stop comparing him to my ex because he is nothing like him, when i told him i dont trust him he looked hurt and upset, but then i said i didnt mean what i said but deep down i cant trust no one. its got to the point where i worry so much that hes cheating, it makes me sick to the stomache of him being with someone else.. i love this boy more than anything in this world, we are happy together, we have nice long chats, we know eachother very well. i just want to be able to learn how to trust again before i lose the best thing thats ever happend to me. any advice? xxx
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reader, jessica-lea +, writes (16 November 2009):
 hi,
It must feel horrible to be feeling that, you obviously love your boyfriend very much and he loves you.
Remember that trust is a really important thing to have within a realtionship and it only makes the relationship stronger, its good that he knows about your ex because he understands where your coming from and would understand why you accused him of what you did.
Just be youself and try not to jump to conclusions about things if there is a little problem within the relationship, all relationships have there problems but they can esily be resolved!
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reader, bubblegirl1818  +, writes (16 November 2009):
 im kinda going threw the same thing your going threw. trust me you shoundnt acuse him of cheating if he hasnt done any thing wrong to make you think he has it will just make things worse. Try to imangine that insted of you not trusting him and stuff like that lets say that he dint trust you you would be feeling hurt to so try thinking of how he feels and get past the fact of what happend in the past cuz a healthy relationship is built on love and trust. I hope every thing works out well for you guys.
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