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writes: Ok,I am 13 years old,just of last month.My parents are so overprotective of me.Mostly my dad,but I think my mom feels like she has to agree with everything he says,but she is protective of me sometimes,on her own.For example,one time,during this month,my mom said shewas going to go out with a friend that day and told methat I might have to go over my grandma's house,dependson what my dad says(he had to go to work that night).Later on.my mom said I would have to go.So I said to mydad,"I have to go?!I'm 13 yrs old and of legal age tostay home by myself for a few hours"! (He's let me stayhome alone for a few hours,but it's always been in themorning or always during the day.)But anyway,after whatI said,he said,"Claudia,it's not you I don't trust.It'sother people.To make my point,I want you to read all the stories of crimes in the newspaper".So I did,but Ifelt it did me no good.I still felt like I could handlemyself,no matter what could possibly happen.So,a fewhours later,my mom drove me to my grandma's house..AndI brought up the subject again.And she said,"If yourdad didn't say no,then I would've let you stay home.Youalso could if he wasn't calling home from work tonight,because he would always want to speak to me".Her andher friend were going to stay out from 5pm-11pm.I couldhandle it.And tonight(8-23),they're going out again.Shetold me,and instantly after that,she said,"no,you cannot stay at home".She said it like my dad would say it.Now,I either have a choice of going over my grandmother's house or with them.They always say that Iam becoming older and that I have more responsibilityand that they want me to become extremely mature(I ammature right now.they say I am.)But how am I going tolearn if they keep SHELTERING ME?!It makes me so mad how they say one thing and do another.I can handle staying home by myself at night and they can't seem torealize that.Who's fault is it going to be if I'm 18 yrs. old,afraid to stay home alone at night,and immature and a total baby,and I'm afraid to learn aboutand go experience the world,and life,and its ups and downs?Theirs!I'm a young adult and have to learn sometimes,and I know that there are some things that I'm not ready to learn,but this isn't one of them.What's so wrong with them taking a risk with meand letting me become more independent and mature?I truly don't understand.What is your thought or opinionon this?I don't care who answers,I just want some help.And I'd like it if some parents chipped in too,with their answers.Thanks a lot and answers are appreciated.!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello all.Thanks for answering my question.You all had great suggestions.But if someone was like across the street,
or near by,my father would've just said that they should come,and stay with me.And I don't answer the door,but I always answer the calls(they find nothing wrong with that).
I might as well not waist my breath,they don't understand.
My dad's excuse is always,"it's not you I don't trust,it's
other people".I'm tired of hearing that.He won't be able to
use that excuse forever.I know that already.I know that you
can't depend on and trust everybody because some people simply have no heart.I just hate hearing him say that.It gets me so angry!But fortunately,I have enough respect to not go as far as I would've if I didn't.But thank you for your answers!You all helped.xxxxx
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (24 August 2008):
 You SHOULD be getting the responsibility to stay home alone by now, but there is no real way to get your parents to see that. The other responders have given you some excellent suggestions. Try following them.
And cheer up. Things could be going the other way. When I was 11 I "got" to stay home alone from the time school was out (about 3:00) until my mother got off work at between 10:00 and 11:00. And I "got" the honor of taking care of my 18 month old baby sister during that entire time as well. You can imagine just how flipping thrilled I was at having that responsibility. So count your blessings. Although as I say, you should be old enough to be staying by yourself by now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2008): yeahh why dont you talk to your parents, ask them if you could have a friend stay over you wouldnt answer the door or phonee and see how they reacted?x
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reader, thats_not_my_name  +, writes (23 August 2008):
 hey! i understand tht this must be frustrating for you. you want to start to get some independence and do your own thing like most teenagers. i expect tht your parents are finding hard to except tht you're growing up. are you an only child? cos the way i see they just want to protect you. they know tht you won't do ne thing stupid, but they are still worried about you. this shows tht they care for you and love you very much, no matter how annoying it is! my dad is also quite over-protective and i find tht the best way to reason with him is in a calm and mature way. don't get angry or stroppy, just calmly explain how you feel. maybe take small steps at frist, like letting him leave you on your own in the evening for an hour, than 2 and just gradually build it up. good luck, hope i helped a little bit and if you ever want to talk just message me :) xxxxx
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