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writes:I'm really hurt. I was supposed to be going to my mum's house tomorrow and stay until Christmas Day. I rang her tonight and she told me that she doesn't want to be bothered seeing me at all for Christmas now as she is tired and she just wants to sleep a lot. She doesn't like Christmas that much anyway. She works in a factory and i know they do more hours at Christmas. There was an argument last night though between me, her and my Grandmother. I'm wondering if she is telling the truth though, or if she is carrying things on from last night and holding a grudge. I really don't want to be stuck at home on my own for Christmas. I can't believe she would be like this, especially at this time of year. Should i ring her tomorrow and see if she has changed her mind, or should i just see if she rings me ?. Does anyone else thinks she is being cruel ?. It's stupid though because even if she is tired, it shouldn't matter, as we would only be sat watching tv anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2012): She sounds like a selfish ole bat...Why spend xmas day with someone that don't care less wether you have a happy time or not. Learn not to get hurt over other peoples selfishness...next year make different plans without humbug.
Sorry i Know she is your mom but that doe snot make her an angel or right...it makes you a little unlucky.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2011): Sounds like she is stressed out after work and needs a rest. If you do want to go over, how about you do the cooking, washing up etc?
Alternatively, you could let her sleep over Christmas and offer to do something nice for her afterwards.
Lots of people spend Christmas alone but if you don't want to, and your mum really does want to have this rest, then ask another relative or friend if you can join them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2011): Christmas season can be difficult for people who have come from abusive/neglectful childhood homes.Also if Mom is struggling financially and by sounds of it, with depression, this season would be difficult. Also doesn't sound like she has a very warm and loving relationship with Grandma.Its not overly fair to Expect Mom to fulfill a role of we are a healthy, happy Family this time of year, if she never had it or believes she cannot provide it herself.I know it hurts. My Birth Mom is the same way. But being I am now a Mother, I just focus on my children and doing my best for them. Thankfully they appreciate it.In time, Christmas will be the kind of Christmases you want, when you build your life and family.I say this is the Season to Forgive, Love, and do the best that you can.Tell Mom, you know I don't expect the Moon and perfection, and maybe this time of year is hard for you Mom. I can sorta understand. I'll be stopping by to give you a hug and cook you dinner and then I will go.Bet you it changes her mind. Either way, try to see the good and do some good for others, and Christmas won't be so bad this year.Hang in there.*hugs*
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