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writes:I share with 2 other people. He moved in first,and we got along really well. I had a crush on him. He taught me swimming, played cards, ... pretty much flirt with me. Then the other girl moved in (who is older and not good looking, but she has a cheerful personality). They went out together at least twice now and they both keep it secret from me. But I know anyway. If three of us are watching tv together, he never looks at me or talks to me, but her. He laughs with her, talks with her like I don't even exist. Or like when he comes home and she and I are talking, he will ask her alot of questions, bla..bla.. but dont' even ask how was my day.But if she goes away for few days, he immediately talks and laughs with me again. I no longer have a crush on him as he behaves not so nice (he's 35 yo). But still I'm very jealous. I want to tell her to move out with a nice excuse ( I can do that, it's my place) because I dont want to feel isolated. I just don't want to feel like this, even though I don't want to do anything with him. Please help me!! Should I tell her to move? or even both of them move out together, I don't care!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit's her to go because:1. I don't like any romance in the house. It'll be uncomfortable to me if they do "couple" things or argue or what so ever in my house. 2. one of them need to go, and i find a better excuse to tell her to go than to him. also, though i'm currently dating someone else, i still kind of "blame" her that made him change towards me.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (17 May 2011):
 He is the one you feel is isolating you, correct? So why is it HER you are considering booting out?
It's just not rational.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't like him not because he likes her, but because he doesn't talk to me. He likes her, that's no prob to me as H start seeing someone else. I just don't like he isolates me infront of her. we all 3 people can still be good friends even if they're bf and gf. I just can't stand being isolated in my own place.
Asking her to move out, I know it's "childish", "selfish", but I can't get over being jealous and left out.
Am I bad??
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 May 2011):
Honestly "She" isn't your problem. So booting her out won't solve anything.
If you want to make friends GO out "there" and make some. Start on a new hobby or take some classes. Don't expect your two room mates to be responsible for YOUR entertainment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): He likes her and he wants to pursue her so he's not going to do anything to make her question that. Asking her to move out is petty and won't diffuse his interest in her, only increase it because he can't see her as much so he'll be over at her place all the time and then you'll really be isolated. Best just to get over him and realize he just likes you as a friend or landlord. There are other guys out there.
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