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writes:Is my sister in law in love with my husband?Long story short weve been married for 7-8 yrs now 2 beautiful kids..he has a younger sister theyre 9 yrs apart and every time shes around she does anything to get his attention.. she seems to be jealous of me i feel like she wants to be me ao bad.. she in one occasion messaged my husband to go help her fix the shower i go in and all she has is wrapped in a towel this incident with the shower had happend before but she called her mom... my husband took almost an hour fixing that damn shower head... that same day she copied my hair style that i always do with the hoop earings and everythn..she slaps my husband ass around saying expressions like “that ass tho” like wtf...? how does he allow that? she walks around in little ass booty shorts we all sleep in one small room and she like to sleep in a position for everybody to look at her... she always trys to get as close to him as possible and i mean close to sit down to walk and he doesnt mind but when i do the same he pushes me away saying to give him space ...also he wont go out the block with me wearing booty shorts like hers but when i do hell call me a bitch a whore...ect.. he even goes to take a piss when shes in the sower he seems to check her out at times ive seen it idk if its driving me crazy but she always seems to want to be involved.... if me and my husband getting ready to go somewhere shell messg him saying where u going i wanna go or message him to like her pictures on fb .... its driving me insane to where i wanna snap...every tim i approach him about it he says im hating on her... but for what for the attention he gives her or looks at her....? yes def im his wife shes set me up in the past before so do i like her hell no and none the less i donttrust her not even with my kids.. how do i deal with this..? am i going crazy or is she taking too far...?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (8 July 2016):
 Wait! Never mind info; "he'll call me a bitch a wh*re" is enough - leave him.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 July 2016):
 What age is she? What has she done so bad to you? Why are you all sharing a room, yet she has her own place? Try and explain more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2016): BrownWolf hit the nail on the head. Your husband's behavior is what you should be concerned about. She is an impressionable teenager, who may need more understanding of boundaries between siblings. She's a kid going through puberty and he should be teaching her those boundaries.
He shouldn't be in the bathroom exposing his genitals around any teenage girl. Period!!!
She's not in-love with him. She's a teenage brat going through puberty.
You've been whiny about it. You should be straightforward and even harsh; that he should not encourage such behavior from his own sister. Insist that the discomfort is jeopardizing your marriage. If his twisted behavior continues, you should consider if you can stand witnessing this all the time. I think he's more the problem than she is. I never go in the bathroom when my sister is showering!
I would correct my sisters about making sexual-innuendo when I know it's inappropriate to comment about each others bodies, or flirt! That's sick! Any way you look at it.
Letting it continue is up to you. Unless you're just the jealous-type, and exaggerating about all this. If you've witnessed it, addressed it, and yet it continues. What are you going to do about it? Just let him brush it off? Maybe you ought to have a talk with him and let him know if he doesn't take you seriously, you'll bring it up to his parents or leave.
Why are you all living in such close quarters anyway? Why is she living with you and not her own parents? Why don't you have your own place all to yourselves? This seems very back-woodsy and creepy; but she's just a kid.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (8 July 2016):
Why are you blaming her anyway???
Have you taken a good look at your post?? Seems like your husband is the one to blame here, not the sister.
She can only do what HE allows her to do...and from what I see, he is allowing a lot.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (8 July 2016):
 Let's say his sister is 15 or 16. That's an age where girls get curious about sex, boyfriends and want to dress adult. Maybe she does not have a boyfriend so she is simulating what an adult relationship feels like with her brother. Your husband needs to stop letting her in between your marriage. Checking out a sibling's body may be tempting at age 12. At your husband's age, he should know better. He's a father and should be a good role model to your children. When your children grow up, make sure they don't share a tub or bed after they are 5. I won't trust her with the kids either. As wife and mother, you should have the power to disinvite her or tell her to leave once she acts inappropriate.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (7 July 2016):
Yes, more info please.
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reader, miss frank +, writes (7 July 2016):
This is a very confusing post. Can you clarify- how old is this girl? Is she a child? Nine years younger than him? How old is she? And why are you all sleeping in a small room together? Who is 'we all' regarding you all sleeping in one small room? Parents too? This all sounds odd... More details please
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