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male
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:So, I've been in a relationship with this girl for almost 15 months now. The thing is, she was here (asia) studying for a few years until she finished high school, and now she's moving back home to Europe, to study at Uni for the next 4-5 years, whilst I am in Asia also in University. Our relationship started out amazing and she lost her virginity to me, we professed our love for each other and basically we love spending time with one another. We can just be lying around laughing and joking, and we still love it.There was a rough patch which was caused by the possibility of me moving overseas for university at around our 6 month mark, which put a lot of strain on us as we werent sure what was happening. Not to mention some cultural differences between our families. I asked her if she wanted to do long distance but she said no.Since then, we've sorted it out, even went travelling together for a beach getaway. We've loved every bit of it, but now we're getting to the end, she's about to move away, and she wants to do long distance now. I have some doubts because of her change in mind, not to mention the fact that she's the kind of girl who wants to have lots of life experiences, travelling, meeting people, and I don't want to be that one thing thats holding her back. It's made me very nervous about it.What is your take? Should I go with it? Or should I end it, and how should I end it?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 July 2016):
 I think you should sit down and talk to her and work it out together between the both off you. Be honest how you feel, tell her what worries you and ask her how she feels. Will long distance be hard? Yes it will be, even more so when you are both young and full off life, but am sure it is worth a try if you really want to be with each other.
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reader, miss frank  +, writes (7 July 2016):
Ah. This is sad to read to my view. You both sound lovely, and you sound very thoughtful and mature in your concerns and thoughts for her.
Long distance for that length of time, and at your age is going to be so tough! You guys are plane rides away. Sometimes in life, you have to enjoy the time you have together and know it wont last, and it will have its special place with you always.
Should you end it? That's a tough one for anyone to advise, especially a stranger who doesn't know either of you...but it sounds to me like your head is taking the lead here, not your heart. You seem to be intent on a LDR with all you are both faced with isn't workable. When she's gone from your life, be prepared for your heart catching up then.
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