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writes: i found out sept 2004 my husband was texting a woman he worked with we had arguments he said he would stop texting their was nothing else going on. oct nov 2004 i found phone calls and texts to this woman he still said nothing was going on he promised he would have nothing to do with her again not even talk to her he used to come home saying he had seen the slag but didnt speak when i used to see her she would put her haed down and if my husband was there they would ignore each other. in dec 2005 i found a mobile phone he had been texting this woman she also had another number unknown to her husband they had been having an affair my husband said it was just sex she ment nothing but back in nov 2005 when i confronted him then and was going to leave him he begged me not to saying he wanted me i told him if he had contact with her in any way we were finshed.i am still with my husband but i cant seem to get over what he did i found the phone the day before my bday they were arranging for her to come to my house for sex the day of my bday.he wont discuss the affair he just says it was sex yet every message was how much they loved each other our sex was plentiful and he says nothing was wrong in our marriage so how can he risk loosing me and the children if she ment nothing to him
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reader, Danielle934 +, writes (3 May 2006):
 You need to seek couples counseling if you want to work this out. Not only you, but your husband needs it as well, and if he refuses to go then you will know that he doesn't truly want to work things out. It is possible to get through this but you have to both be willing and open to communicate. You have many questions that you need answered and your husband needs to accept that. It is most likely that you will continue to feel this way until you get your answers, and those answers are not going to be pleasant to hear... that is where the counselor comes in. I know someone who went to couples counseling because of an unfaithful marriage and had great success. If your husband refuses to go through counseling then please leave him, no child deserves to grow up in an unhappy marriage!
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