A
male
 ,
anonymous
writes:There is this girl I really like but she seems to be intent on ruining her life. She had a bad time in the past with her last boyfriend who treated her badly. And now I think she has low self esteem and is insecure about herself.For the last year or so she has been going out and getting drunk at least twice a week, to the point of being sick and falling over. Recently she admitted she has had nearly 20 one-night-stands in the last year! She seems to get involved with sleazy guys who just treat her like a sex object (probably cos they can see how drunk she is and fancy their chances). She has got a reputation now as being a slag and she's spending more and more time with girls who behave the same way.I know she likes me and I like her but I've had a hard time dealing with her behaviour. I want to make her happy and save her from this mess she has gotten into but how can I do that? Is there any way I can make her see that there are people who really care about her and she should be with someone special not one of these sleazy losers that she ends up with when she's drunk.
View related questions:
drunk, insecure, self esteem Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (4 May 2006):
 I think you need to keep showing you care and make little gestures that show her how special she is to you and ultimately you may have to be prepared to tell her how you feel. Buy her something she would like maybe and tell her how you feel.
Be prepared for a rough ride maybe and she may say something along the lines of shes not good enough for you but be prepared to be gently persistant. She may have a hard time dealing with genuine affection but keep at it. Hope that helps.
|
