My husband has had an affair with a girl nearly half my age... how can I trust him again?

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

My husband has had an affair with a girl nearly half my age. He says it's over and it was just because it boosted his self esteem to have wild sex with a uninhibited teen and he only wanted her for one thing. I never met her but she has been with my husband in hotels and I found out a few days ago that she lived in my house for a week while I was away with my mother. He said I knew everything weeks ago but this is a new revelation. He went out for the first time since and in the morning there was a text from her saying did he get home safe and hoped tonight wouldn't affect their working relationship. He says nothing happened but he said it was a one night stand which actually was an affair. He said she never came to my house but she moved in for a week. I've been at my mum recently WAS she here again? If he was lying before how can I believe him now. He is treating me really well now before I knew about the affair he was horrible to me which confuses me more. I feel down all the time, thinking about what happened in my bed( he didn't even change the duvet I could smell perfume, clue #1 to findinding out)thinking about what I may not know and how I can't compete with a teen girl. Everything that I know I either found clues or she told me on the phone before he admitted it. We have three children and I hate them seeing me upset but it happens. How can I trust him again and stop torturing myself with the details of his affair with teen?

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