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writes:I'm still crying over my husbands affair. He had a six month affair with a school girl. I was pregnant they both knew that. He didn't use precautions and slept with both. I've had councilling but feel my life is tainted by them. I have three lovely children and have stayed with him because of them. I do love him but don't trust him and after all this time have just found out that his 'it's all out in the open' was not true. He lied again. She has informed me she was pregnant and he didn't tell me even when I asked him out right(she says she miscarried). WHAT NEXT he says that's it but I've heard that before. I feel like my life has gone from Middle class housewife to potential Jeremy Kyle Guest. What would you do
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 November 2008):
 Sorry I got your identity incorrect. We have a school girl who writes us with all sorts of scenarios about her teacher, I thought this was yet just another one. However I still stand by one part of my previous answer, your husband is an idiot for risking his career to have sex with a student, no matter what age the student is, it's still a firing offense at most schools.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen I say school girl she was at school studying for her A levels so was not underage. To eyeswideopen I am not her that is the biggest offence. I can understand why you my think that because the person who wrote the question spelt mistress wrong. I am 35 educated to degree standard and I have been torn apart by this. I am really angry with him but he thinks because the time has past that I feel better about it (I dont It was last year). We've separated and because I was pregnant I came home. I found out more lied one after the other the pregnancy thing came out six weeks ago. I've had all the checks luckily no diseases and had councilling. Just can't help thinking what don't I know or what will he do next??? My children saw how unhappy I was but I blamed pregnancy hormones. They know it was more but they are just glad we are all together. I am worried he is attracted to youth because I will as everyone get older and older. He could have said all the right thing like you see on the telly. But no he couldn't even do that she is heartless and he is a coward. It is no impressive (I believe he thinks this) to sleep with someone who is just leaving school. She was impressed by his power and he drove a car what more can a teen want. She didn't really care about him if she slept with him drunk in his hotel room after the Christmas party. She was his Saturday girl. He barely knew her I am so bitter that her life goes on unscathed while mine is ruined. Thanks
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reader, gingerb6 +, writes (10 November 2008):
I think your trying to do the best for your children my first husband left me for a 16 year old my 2nd has just been kicked out as i caught him with his 18 yr old cousin my point is the kids will know your unhappy i have six and they are my world.you need to have respect for yourself and know you can do better for yourself than a man who cheats on you it's really hard work butyou'd get they're maybe you have the feeling of not wanting to be alone you'll have your children they will see the differance .Everytime he goes out you'll wander where he's going i say once a cheater always a cheater good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): What should you do? I can think of several alternatives:
*Shoot yourself.
*Shoot your husband.
*Shoot the schoolgirl.
*Do all three.
A less drastic but probably better alternative would be:
*Leave your husband.
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reader, MT19 +, writes (10 November 2008):
You poor thing!!! I'm not going to tell you what to do in the end the descision has to be yours, but if i was in your shoes, i agree it is hard to leave but i would do it simply because i want my children to grow up believing that you should be with someone for no other reason than you love them and they love you. Nobody is saying you have to stop him from seeing his kids and being a dad to them but personally i think you deserve better.
Good Luck !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): Your husband had sex with a child at school.. your still with him. Sorry babes, but that's crazy, you can't stay with a man who likes having sex with children, forgets to use contraception and gets them pregnant. Your risking your life by staying with this man, he could have given you a sexual disease. Get yourself to a clinic straight away and get a test to check for HIV. Your husband is attracted to children, aren't you nervous about young girls that are around him, aren't you scared of the authorities. Your safest bet is to divorce him straight away. He didn't have an affair, he took advantage of an innocent young child. In staying with him you are condoning and supporting this pervert who targets children to play sex games with.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (10 November 2008):
My first instict is to say that if he is capable of getting an underage girl pregnant then he is not worth staying for.
Are you sure that you and your children could not make a life if he moved out and you two divorced.
I am sure you know that staying "for the sake of the kids" is often not the best thing to do. How much have they picked up on? How much is this going to shape their future relationships?
I think perhaps it would be good for him to move out ona temprary trial basis. You must have SO MUCH anger that you want to scream and punch him but I am sure you are keeping it in which can't be healthy.
See how you get on and if it makes you happier then you can always make it permanent.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 November 2008):
You know at the risk of totally offending you I think this post was written by our young school girl who has a huge crush on her teacher. If on the off chance that this is a genuine post, your husband must be a total idiot to risk his career for jail bait poontang. And that's another reason I think you are pulling our collective leg, nobody could be that stupid.
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