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writes:i am married, have three children, one from a previous relationship. me and husband both work, but he does not contribute much to the house hold or physically, the property we live in is too small and belongs to me, but i frightened to get joint property with him because i think he is careless with money. we argue all the time in front of the children, he shouts and swears at me and is always trying to boss me arround, one of the children is having problems as school, i am stressed out all the time, should we seperate or try to see help
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (20 May 2007):
 It sounds like you are having a tough time at the moment, your Husband sounds like he needs kicking into shape abit. For a start you are both married and should be contibuting to the house equally, it shoulden't be just down to you. Also he shoulden't be shouting and swearing at you in front of the kids, this can affect them emotionally. It sounds like you do have some trust issues with him money wise, which is why you have not joint the property with him. These issues have got to be sorted if you want this marriage to work.
If you can't see any future in this then i would be inclined to seperate, however if you really want this to work i suggest you both see a counsellor to help you get back on track.
Good luck x
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reader, DV1  +, writes (20 May 2007):
 Marraige is a contract. Both people are agreeing to contribute as equally as possible to the household that they are creating. You need to tell him to accept that responsibility or tell him to get lost.
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