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*hatguy88
writes:So my girlfriend has a guy friend that she grew up with since she was like a few months old. She always tells me he is just friends. i saw a text from this guy a while back saying "im craving you rn". so im like wtf? she said he was drunk and i dunno why he wrote that to me. This was in the first month of dating. we have been dating for 6 months now. She talks to this guy almost daily and hangs out with him every so often, but not alone, as far as i know. She lied to me about hanging out with this guy before and told me she wanted to save an argument, so she didn't tell me. i do believe that this guy was a friends with benefits before we were going out. i dont think she would ever cheat on me. so i guess i dont really have a question, just want to know what other think.thanks
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reader, thatguy88 +, writes (14 October 2010):
thatguy88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know you people say. She wouldn't be with me if she wanted to be with him. But this Guy is a player. He doesn't want a relationship. That's why she isn't with him.
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reader, J.Gentleman  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 I have the exact same problem here man. I understand what might be going through your head, the thoughts of this boy and your girl doing it behind your back, it sucks a lot. And in my opinion, if another person say "if she didnt love you she'd be dating him", that my friend is most likely false, because in both women and men in a relationship, they would keep the relationship because of either the benefits you give or to maintain their social integrity in front of peers. My advice is to talk to her about it, and see if anything is going on. In my experience, I have been seeing both sides of the problem. My ex-bestfriend was cheating on her boyfriend with her childhood friend, but stayed for the benefits of expensive dates, needless to say, I dont talk to that girl anymore. But this is always 50/50. You got to talk to her, and dont be afraid to ask the hard questions, people who do cheat never get the right answers.
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reader, romany  +, writes (5 September 2010):
 As far as I can see, she wants you, if she wanted him, then she'd be with him.
If they've known each other since they were that young, I doubt they were friends with benefits and still friends, and I doubt your the first boyfriend that has had a problem with their friendship. But because you are obviously important to her, she felt the need to protect your feelings and avoid an arguement where she may be put into a situation where an ultimatum may be issued.
Honestly, I really can't see that a friendship of that depth, could be a FWB.
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reader, thatguy88 +, writes (5 September 2010):
thatguy88 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand, she told me she went out with this guy a few times in middle school but he didn't want a relationship so it didn't work out and they are only friends. I try to talk to her about it but she always says she is just friends. it does make me soooo jealous.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2010): Listen if she liked this "friend" of hers or if your a little worried about things going on when your not around DONT BE because if she was interested they would already be dating and you wouldnt be her boyfriend. I completely get the jealousy thing I would be too. Talk to her about it or maybe show her how you feel by talking to some girls you know... just as friends ofcourse.
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