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writes:I am worried about my girlfriend. The past couple of weeks she has had a very high fever. I took her to doctor but he just gave her antibiotics, this happened with three different doctors. She refuses to eat, saying the taste burns her mouth. At night she sleeps roughly and she has always been a still sleeper. The past three nights I had to keep her from scratching herself as she scratches herself until it starts bleeding, she does this while sleeping. She is living on water. Three doctors in three different towns cant be wrong, but could this have been psychologically brought on? She has had a lot of stress recently, her father died 2yrs ago, her quadroplegic uncle has moved in, her brother has been drinking alot and she recently kicked him out, chased him away, and in doing this placed all the financial stress on her. Even though her mother doesnt have a job, she does all the housework and cares for my gfs uncle. My girlfriend wont allow me to help her out financially, but I can stand seeing her in this state of distress. Her whole body is full of scratchmarks and scabs where she scratched herself the past couple of nights. Could this illness be psychological, a sign of stress? If so, what can I do to help lessen it? please help. I am so extremely worried. Also, since this has started, more than once she has asked me how can i love her? Which i do, completely. I try to tell her everyday, and i just want her happy....
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (5 December 2009):
 Maybe do some research online?x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): You're doing your best and I think you should stick to the plan you have of paying the mortgage without her knowing etc. Also see more doctors? If worst comes to worst she'll need to get hospitalized and have nutrition brought into her body directly through the tubes. I don't know what thats called in English, but you know what I mean I hope.
Even if the food wont stay down. It stays for a little. She needs to eat veeeery slowly and take goood time between meals, and only very little at each time. Keep up with it, unless she eats she will get worse than she already is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): I lost my code for the q. I am the original poster.. The anti biotics were to bring her fever down, but its not working... I do not live with her, i just stayed over the past couple of nights because she didnt want me to leave. I hav tried forcing her to eat or drink anything besides water, but it wont stay down. I also tried to give money towards helping her support her mother and uncle as she has kicked her brother out but she told me she doesnt want my money. I plan on giving money to her mother or just paying the mortgage on the house without her knowing. The doctors said that physically they cant find anything wrong with her, but it was prior to me trying to force feed her..
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): Make her eat. If she wont eat solid food, make energy drinks. Make her eat vitamin pills. She needs nutrition. For the other problems I do not know, but I work at the hospital kitchen so I know how important food is.
An energy drink mix example:
1 raw egg
1-2 deciliter cream or thick milk
some youghurt
a few spoons ice cream
a banana
Mix it all together, you could also throw some ice cubes in and mix it good so it all blends together. The ice cubes will cool the drink. Taste before you serve it, it's supposed to taste good! The main point is that whatever you add in the drink, it needs to contain fat, and foods with concentrated levels of nutrition, like an egg. Protein. The banana is mainly for taste, you can use other fruits for different flavours.
Hope that can help you some.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): Hi. Im sorry if my post is repeated but my pc crashed so im not sure if this message reached you and im sending it again. You sound as if you are living with her as you are stopping her from scratching in her sleep. You also say shes refusing financial help from you. In fairness you should insist on helping her out while shes in this state. And speak to her mother and insist she help more around the home and look after what i take to be her brother. You have to assert yourself while she is ill and sort things out for her im afraid, until she is better able to cope. Also if shes been having high temperatures this is generaly a sign that infection is present. What were the antibiotics for? Why are the doctors prescribing antibiotics yet saying they cant find anything wrong with her? If shes had a battery of antibiotics the burning sensation in her mouth could well be oral thrush. Buy her natural `live` yogurts, try and get her to eat some every few hours for a day or so and see if this eases the problem.As no doctor has said she is suffering a phycological problem, you really must get her checked again because for what ever reason, she is unwell and needs a proper diagnosis and probably some short term medication.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): You sound as if you are living with her as you are stopping her from scratching in her sleep. You also say shes refusing financial help from you. In fairness you should insist on helping her out while shes in this state. And speak to her mother and insist she help more around the home and look after what i take to be her brother. You have to assert yourself while she is ill and sort things out for her im afraid, until she is better able to cope. Also if shes been having high temperatures this is generaly a sign that infection is present. What were the antibiotics for? Why are the doctors prescribing antibiotics yet saying they cant find anything wrong with her? If shes had a battery of antibiotics the burning sensation in her mouth could well be oral thrush. Buy her natural `live` yogurts, try and get her to eat some every few hours for a day or so and see if this eases the problem.As no doctor has said she is suffering a phycological problem, you really must get her checked again because for what ever reason, she is unwell and needs a proper diagnosis and probably some short term medication.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 December 2009):
Yes, this does sound psychological. It sounds like your girlfriend is feeling a of strain at the moment and everything is now getting to her. I think you need to really talk to her about how she's feeling at the moment. Sit her down, give her a very big hug and ask her how she's feeling about everything, because you're worried about her. You need to listen and have a lot of patience. Show her you're worried, tell her you're worried and gently ask her to talk to you. It sounds like she is under a huge amount of stress.
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