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He wants to wait but I want him now!

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Question - (5 December 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 5 December 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Im 15 and a 26 year old likes me and i like him he say he'll wait till im 18 i want him now tho what should i do?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009):

Ugh...why? This guy is 26 for all you know he could be manipulating you or triking you into wanting sex with him. Its not really the age difference that bothers me, its the sick man that says 'he will wait' i mean really what the heck?

You and him+sex= big big mistake!!

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A male reader, Kenneth United States +, writes (5 December 2009):

This man is a pedophile - preying on minors. He has no business even talking to you as a girlfriend or in a romantic or sexual manner. You are also too young to be having sex. Look for boys your age that will take you to the movies, plays, theartre without any sexual involvement.

STAY AWAT FROM THIS 26 YEAR OLD MAN.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (5 December 2009):

I'm afraid he's right to wait. You're too young at the moment, and he could go to prison and have to sign the sex offender's list if he does anything with you. He's shown a huge amount of respect to you by waiting, and believe me it's better that what could have happened. Have patience.

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A female reader, Country Woman United Kingdom +, writes (5 December 2009):

Country Woman agony auntSweetheart the fact that a 26 year old is showing interest in you, that is not great, he is an adult and you are not.

It could be seen to be that an older man is preying on a younger girl and there are words for that type of person.

You say he is content to wait until you are 18, if he is a true man with very good morals, then that should be the case, regardless of whether you want him or not, in the eyes of the law you are still a minor.

Does your parents know about this man?

Do NOT do anything sexual with this man, it just isn't right, you are not mature enough on an emotional level to let yourself be manipulated in any way and by that I mean emotionally as well as physically.

It could be seen that this man is doing something called GROOMING, which is to flatter and be very kind and caring towards someone who is vunerable, i.e. someone of your age to get what they want, even though he is saying NOT NOW.

Confide in family and friend's as well, if everyhing is all above board then there should be NO reason why you cannot tell those closest to you.

He is 11 years older than you, why is he not already with someone of his own age, that is the question a lot of people would ask.

Just please be very careful sweetheart. Be honest with your family about this man.

BTW how did you meet this man in the first place? How long have you known him? Have you done anything with him at the moment, I don't mean full sex but I just intrigued to know how far things have gone already, as that is also an important thing to know.

I realise that you are confused and don't know which way to turn, but sweetheart you asked this question for a reason and you came to this site to get answers, you are certainly not the first girl of your age to do that, I know I have answered others as well.

Please let me know some more info about this situation. I am here to help as are all the other aunts and uncles as well OK.

Don't panic, just keep a level head and know that we are not trying to judge you but help you instead OK. You did the right thing in asking sweetheart.

Wait to hear from you.

BFN

Country Woman

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009):

if he sleeps with you my dear then he will be guilty of a criminal offence called statutory rape (sex with a minor under 16). He can go to jail and have a criminal record for life. Be grateful that he is respectful of your age and not rather pushing you to do stuff that all us women always regret but we do anyway after refusing to listen to advice. If you keep pushing him he is going to think you are a desperate slut then you will be dumped. Respect his wishes and play with yourself instead to relieve your sexual needs.

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