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writes:Hi, i have recently met my new guy on a dating site. My friends will laugh if they know where i have met him,but he has no embarrassment and refuses to lie about it. Also me and my ex broke up over me being on dating sites. Even though its nothing to do with him on this occasion,i still dont want him to find out how i met him so he can say i told you so. How do i explain?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 November 2011):
 and you care what OTHERS thing because why?
I've met so many people I dated online that I have to REMIND myself that my current partner and I met in real life.... I forget...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2011): Is this more about your ex finding out his reason for leaving you were valid? The reason i ask is because you care what he says which is not normal under the circumstances. He will have told those who asked so you may find people know under the circumstances. It is true a lot of people think dating sites are for the desperate,but you shouldnt care as long as you are happy in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2011): you shouldnt worry about what friends and your x says. how come you was looking while you was with your x and you now worry what he thinks? he may be pissed about it but he may have met someone. how long ago did you guys break up?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): I assure you the ex isnt interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): You give your friends too much value of their opinions.
It is VERY common to meet someone online via a dating site.
In the past, singles used to meet at places where other singles gathered! Since a lot of people do not hang out at singles bars or church picnics we have the net! Almost everyone has a computer in their house, so what is so odd about seeking something else we need and want via our computer screen? (We live our lives via the computer nowadays!)
To heck with what your friends think! To hell with what your ex bf thinks. He is your EX. He is in your past and not your future. You owe no explanation.
If you did cheat on the ex in the past via dating sites, the ONLY person you owe an explanation to is your current bf and only if it comes up.
Walk on and just be happy!:)
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (20 November 2011):
 Good for your current boyfriend about refusing to be embarrassed about meeting you on a dating site - and refusing to lie about it!
As for your ex, well he IS your ex. You should not have anything further to do with him. It is none of his business. If he says he told you so, well, so what? As I said, at this point he's history and you should not even be talking casually to him.......you don't owe him any kind of explanation......
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): If you are real about this man it will be difficult to live a lie. You shouldnt worry what the ex knows, thats why he left you.
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reader, supermum +, writes (20 November 2011):
 Why should you be embarrased? If this new guy is right for you, your friends will soon see it and be happy for you. You will probably get teased about him no matter what you say, that is what friends are for.
As for your ex, who cares? It is over between you. He should not care through what, when or how you meet anyone. And you should certainly not care what he thinks!
If you really are that embarrassed, just say you met him on the internet. You do not need to say it was a dating site, but if your new partner is going to let the cat out of the bag anyway, I would just come out and say it first!
Cheer up and stop worrying..... you have a new man!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2011): Explain what? Why do something if it embarrasses you? Is your ex going to be interested now? You have just finalised your initial intention.
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