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writes: So a couple of years ago, I dated this guy. He was a HUGE part of my life, and we dated for a long time. However, we grew up, and went our seprate ways. But we still talk. I moved 6 hours away, and...every couple of months, i'll get a text or a phone call asking me how i was doing etc.Hes 21, and hes talking to my fiance's little sister! (shes 16). I didn't think it was really anything, until recently she started talking about ALL this stuff that they talk about, and how he makes her smile and stuff.ITS DISGUSTING. 2 days ago, my fiance's little sister blurts out, that hes coming down here to meet her (for the first time). ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?I don't approve of this. I'm not trying to be mean, but this girl "gets around", and the last thing i want..is her "gettin' around" with my ex boyfriend.How awkward is that? My FIANCE's sister, wants to date my exboyfriend!What should i do? Should i give him my two cents (ruin our friendship) by telling him i don't want him coming down here.Should i be happy for them? I don't have feelings for the guy, i just find it weird...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 March 2011):
Sorry, but there isn't one little you can do to stop it. If you say something to him, he won't give a damn and will just come anyway. If you say something to her, she'll be put in the middle and she'll probably turn against you. Then your finance will be put in the middle, and will be quite angry that you let something about an ex get to you. Bite your lip, focus on your fiance. They have the right to do what they want, and there is nothing you can do to stop it. Anything else and you could seriously damage what you have with your fiance because he might think you still love your ex, or will be placed in the middle of two pissed off women - something men end up running from in the end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2011): I would be more angry over the age gap than him being my ex, granted it would be extremely awkward and i wouldnt like it one bit and i would make that fact very clear to the two of them.you need to ask yourself, why, out of all the people he could choose from, why is he choosing a teenager who is your fiance's sister. Maybe he knows this will get your back up. I suggest you talk with him, dont bad mouth the girl shes still a child at the end of the day hes the adult, bitching about her and pointing out that she 'gets around' will only make you look jealous and wouldn't be very nice for your fiance.Sit down and have a chat with him say she's a nice girl dont hurt her ask him of his intentions etc.... best of luck :)
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (26 March 2011):
 Well you really cant stop either of them from meeting up or "gettin' around" because really, thats not your place. Sorry you dont want to hear this right now, but they can turn around and tell you that its not your concern and they are both free to date whoever they want to.
I know it must be very weird for you but you have to accept things as they are. If he was a bad guy or someone completely wrong for this girl, then you could have just maybe warned her. But he doesnt seem to be either....so you just need to get over the initial shock and dont let it bother you so much.
All the best!
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reader, sebaslookingforward  +, writes (26 March 2011):
It might be weird, but he does not sound like a bad guy.
I disapprove of it because of the age gap but you are not her mother, and you are not supposed to interfere nor stop her. I know you feel weird about it but please do not let it ruin any friendships nor your current relationship. Let things flow naturally. Just be happy for them and hope the 21 year old guy does not mislead the "little" 16 year old teenager.
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reader, sneha09  +, writes (26 March 2011):
 if you think this guy may ruin your fiance's sister's life, prevent him otherwise let them be what they like to be.It might make you feel bad somewhat but it should not be that much (to prevent them) as you don't feel for him now.You must feel good for them if everything is working fine.
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