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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Please help because I am a little scared. I am due to be getting married in 5 weeks to a lovely lovely man who has 2 wonderful children who I adore. We have been together for 4 years and so so happy. However, after going through court to get access as their mum Stopped them from coming, for the 1st time ever, she has falsely accused my fiance of GBH (grevious bodily harm) and he has been arrested. She had an argument with him with me there and he didn't touch her. This woman also did this to her son who she hasn't seen in 3 years now. She has stopped the whole family from seeing those kids apart from us. Basically, we want to start a family, we want to be happy, but I am scared! What do I do?!?Thanks
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (18 July 2015):
 Do she have any kind of evidence? Pictures etc?
And yes, I would worry about it continuing on after you two marry. It can be the closeness to the wedding that set her off.
And maybe FROM now on (talk to your solicitor again) to have a 3rd party pick up and deliver the kids, so your husband doesn't HAVE to have anything to do with her. And If she wants to discuss anything, let it go through either a mediator or solicitor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2015): I am the poster. Thank you all so much for the advice I have got a solicitor, but it makes me so so nervous. If she is capable of this, will we ever get to have an easy life ?!? I hope so. I worry what impact this will have on the children as well. If anyone has any experience of this, I would love to hear from you. Thank you.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (17 July 2015):
If he is under suspicion (as in not in police custody) I would say carry on with the wedding as long as you both want to. It sounds like she is trying to ruin the wedding for you both, the timing is a coincidence in that sense. Good luck and I wish you all the best
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 July 2015):
That IS a crappy situation to get in.
Without doubt GET a lawyer (solicitor) ASAP. Don't accept any plea bargains - I'd say FIGHT her. (in court that is).
She should NOT be allowed to get away with false accusations.
You FIANCE needs to be doing all this though, you can't DO it for him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 July 2015):
 he has to get a good attorney and fight this with his ex now but time is the only healer for his relationship with his children.
this too shall pass.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2015): PS: Be smart! lawyer up!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2015): Well,it does sound like a malicious attack on him+his reputation+trying to ruin your wedding day+ his career.
What to do? Well,don't let her win.
If the accusations prove false, then you can proceed and there is nothing she can do to stop you (just like there was nothing she could do to stop access to the children-it was granted to you eventually, because the court saw it as a reasonable demand).
If the see her demand as unreasonable-that's that. I would not have my heart set on the date though, just in case the process takes longer than expected.
Whenever this is done, then you have your wedding.Meanwhile if he is not in jail,but just arrested on suspicion of GBH,I do think they will probs release him in time for your wedding.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 July 2015):
 Keep calm and carry on. That's what you do. No use in fretting or running around like a headless chicken. This will sort itself out. You just sit put and wait.
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