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writes:My fiance to get has told me to wait for 2 years from now so that we can get married,Isn't that too long.Advice please.
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reader, drastic knowledge  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 everyone has there own opions and to some 2 years is nothing and others have been engaged for 10 years but you need to learn wy he wants to wait and go from there
if you love him and if it feels right than wait if you cant then test one failed he isnt your mr. right
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): its not strange or weird, its preference. marraige is a big deal to a lot of ppl. u want to make sure its right and it fits. u will see that even after engagment there is some changes. my fiance wanted to wait 2-3 years, stretch out the engagement. we ended up getting married a year and half later. but even in that year things changed. u also need to think it can take a year to plan. jsut talk with her. and remember, u have the rest of ur life to spend time with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): Some would say its not long enough - it depends what you are both planning to do with the time. Use it wisely as it could be a wonderful time to share dreams together. What is the rush anyway?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): Two years is very reasonable. It's a good idea not to dive in too fast after the engagement... it'll give you time to organize everything and to talk about serious issues that come with marriage (finances, children, etc). Good luck
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reader, Emaz help  +, writes (3 October 2007):
 You are going to be together for all your life!
No two years isn't long, also if it didn't actually work out (im not saying it wont) then you will feel much better b/c you didn't marry him and spend a load of money!
He may not have enough money at the moment and wants everything to be gr8 on the day!
There may be several reasons like that.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (3 October 2007):
 It's never too long when you're going to spend the rest of your lives together and you're still in your 20's. Be patient my dear, I'm sure he has his reasons. It could be financial, or due to a schoool or career committment. Lots of couples remain "engaged" for years before they tie the knot. Try not to pressure him. That's sure to derail the wedding entirely. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): I don't think that it is too long. I think it is a reasonable amount of time to be sure of what you want. It may not even be anything to do with that. How do we know that she just wants to be more financially stable to afford the wedding that she wants. Don't doubt her, two years will fly!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): No, It's not too long. It's not necessarily too short either. Everyone is different. Personally, I think waiting 2 years is about right, just to make sure you're really a committed compatible couple. I guess she's unsure of you and wants to make damned sure she's made the right decision. Very sensible indeed.
Marry in haste, repent at leisure.
Phil
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