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*eartBreakED
writes:I just got out of a relationship a few months ago with an amazing girl and we have actually managed to keep a very close friendship. We still love each other very much but not in the romantic way. Anyways, a guy from her work has started talking to her through MySpace and though I know she doesn't want a relationship and especially not one with him, I still feel really bad when they talk. I don't know why I feel so horrible when they talk because they are just friends and that is it. What is this feeling? Is it jealousy? I want her to eventually find a guy who is everything she wants and needs and everything I couldn't be for her. So why am I so upset that she's even just talking to another guy? For that matter, why do men get so upset when another guy is hitting on their girlfriend? There is a lot about myself that I guess I don't understand and I'm hoping someone out there knows how I'm feeling and what I can do about it.
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reader, HeartBreakED +, writes (4 October 2007):
HeartBreakED is verified as being by the original poster of the question I am still in love with her romantically even though I know we are not supposed to be together. There are some things about her that she's not willing to change and I can't handle. But she is amazing. I know I'm not over her yet. I know I'm feeling jealous of this other guy. I just don't know why. This guy really is no threat to me even if she and I WERE still dating and I know that. I still feel threatened though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): you say shes amazing, she feel weird when talks to other men, you want the best for her, BUT you say you dont love her in a romantic way...are you sure..maybe you need time out to think about what it is you really want, are you sure you dont miss her? if shes that good of a girl...why are you letting her go?...
xxgod bless
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reader, rcn +, writes (3 October 2007):
 Emotional attachment. It's normal. You love her. You have another she's talking about, that means a possibility of sharing your love with someone else.
Why we get up set. As you know we are mammals, maybe not the most advanced, but considered to be. We also have a slight amount of the natural animal instinct. Many mammals fight to be the dominant male over the females. Even when we trust fully with the person we're with, another male hitting on your girlfriend posses a threat.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (3 October 2007):
 you are jealous its ok, it will pass. you want her to find someone so she can be happy but its your way of trying to make your feelings go away trying to confince yourself that you want her to be happy when infact you want it to be you she finds. to be honest its a way that everyone does to try a hide or try and push away there true feelings.
A way to get rid of it instead of trying to convice yourself actually believe that you want her to be happy with out you. im not saying stop being friends with her stay friends with her but try and get over it because when she gets a boyfriend it will get worse. Maybe you guys shouldn't of boken up because you still have feelings for her.
good luck xxxxx
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